Edit: This question pertains to American English usage.
Whether one likes it or not, obscene or taboo words come with degrees of strength, so that 'dick' and 'cock' are synonyms but one is weaker and therefore accepted in more situations (for example: 'your dick is ...' vs. 'your cock is ...').
Now, whenever I come across the word 'cunt' (which isn't often) in relation to the female genitals, the reaction leads me to understand it as a very perjorative word, almost as taboo as 'nigger'. On the other hand, what I would consider its equivalent for the male genitals, 'cock', is much more common and elicits a much weaker reaction.
So, in my mind, the strength of the taboo is as follows:
- 'nigger' equates with 'never EVER use',
- 'cunt' equates with 'never use',
- 'cock' equates with 'don't use',
- 'dick' equates with 'avoid using'.
What I am looking for is a word for 'penis' with the same taboo strength as 'cunt'. I can't think of anything stronger than cock but, as I said, it sounds much weaker to me. Or is the female word simply more taboo because of the traditional social notions of females having to be chaste against non-chaste males being 'men with a capital M'?
edit: The word is to be used in an obscene sentence similar to 'stick your ... in the closest cunt'. I apologise for the rudeness but... rude language is part of language.
This dialogue is suposed to happen in a story in an American middle class setting, even if some of the people might be of a lower standing (working class, no education).