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I am looking for a word which can be used to describe the situation where someone has previously done good deeds towards another and then subsequently wrongs them in some way. This is NOT betrayal.

The best way to clarify the situation I mean is to constrast it with it's opposite, which I would call "redemption", i.e. the scenario where someone has previously wronged another and then does something to make up for it.

An example to clarify; if John beats up Bob, and then subsequently saves Bob from getting run over by a car, we would say that John has redeemed himself, that this was an act of redemption. If, in an alternative universe, John saves Bob from getting run over by a car, and then at some point down the line beats him up, we recognize that John has negated his good deed and Bob is no longer in his debt. What is the word that best describes this act?

The best I can come up with is some form of the phrase "negated goodwill", but I was hoping to find a single word that would fit this meaning. Edit: A better phrase would be good too.

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    @Charon that implies that Bob beat John up in the example, ie "John was good to Bob, then Bob was bad to John". The OP is asking about "John was good to Bob, then John was bad to Bob". – Max Williams Jun 29 '16 at 11:57
  • @MaxWilliams - good point. – Charon Jun 29 '16 at 11:58
  • John joined the Dark Side – NVZ Jun 29 '16 at 23:48
  • When someone we consider our friend does something harmful, it hurts, and the person doing it is being hurtful. – Stu W Jul 2 '16 at 1:13
  • John has not redeemed himself. He has at every turn exerted his dominance over Bob (altruism, notwithstanding as it is fundamentally self-serving). I will have to go with : domineering. – Mazura Jul 2 '16 at 1:32
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In slang, you can say "to dis", as in disrespect. Alternate spelling is "diss". See: http://grammarist.com/spelling/dis-diss/ An example: I thought we were friends. But man, when you left me hanging with those concert tickets - what a dis! You dissed me!"

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A common expression is to "Sully a reputation"

to damage or ruin the good quality of (something)

-Merriam Webster

And as a synonym, "Defile" might also work for your usage.

a : to corrupt the purity or perfection of

-Merriam Webster

EDIT: I thought of a much better word:

Treachery: an act of harming someone who trusts you - Merriam Webster

Treachery is a little less specific than treason which normally denotes overthrowing a governmental body. However, "treason" does have a secondary definition that includes treachery so it could also be acceptable.

  • Thanks. These are fairly close. I'm still trying to find something more specific to the scenario I'm describing though, i.e. someone doing something bad after doing something good. – user3676281 Jul 2 '16 at 8:38
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Disappoint? Let down? Because it seems to me the hurt is all the stronger because of the shift in relationship and beliefs about the nature of that relationship that must occur after the wrongdoing is done.

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