For example I want to know if my actions did "ruin" someones weekend, but use for ruin a softer/nicer word can this be "spoil" and the sentence would look like this:
I hope i did not spoil your weekend too much
Thanks for help and fast answer ^^
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Both "ruin" and "spoil" are strong words and whilst your sentence was fine, it really only allows one polite answer. After all, if the recipient came back and said:
"Actually you did spoil my weekend"
.. it indicates that the whole weekend was ruined.
My preference would be a softer alternative:
"I hope I didn't mess your weekend up too much." or "I hope I didn't disrupt things too much."
Some people will still be reticent about causing offence, so you could take the initiative and say:
"I know I caused a bit of a problem but I hope it wasn't too awful!"