what do you call it when someone randomly but methodically goes out of their way to get you to believe they're doing one thing but than goes and does the complete opposite?
IDK if the purpose is to misdirect or to misinform but I find this type of thing to be consistent with my friends who are overly concerned with what others think of them & also who have an over inflated sense of self importance to the point that everything they do has to be presented around a dinner with family & friends so they can make an "announcement" & not just in person, as soon as its announced its done so across all social media outlets.
For example: My friend & her husband are newly weds & they want to have children someday but they supposedly didnt want to do it immediately so they we're actively trying to convince other newly weds to wait on having kids also, I found this to be odd but it made total sense to me when out of nowhere, They we're expecting a baby. So everyone was puzzled because we thought they were waiting but they hit us all with the "It just happened" bs, I told my wife that the reason they wanted everyone else to wait was because they didnt want anyone else to be expecting a child at the same time they were because they wanted all the attention to themselves.
This isnt the only example, There are a ton of others ranging from little things to things as big as a pregnancy. I just dont understand the need to keep everyone thinking that you're doing certain things only to do another, Who does that?