I knew her well, but I see her again when she's 7-months pregnant. Do I say, "Congrats on the upcoming baby?"
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1"Who is the lucky man?"– apadernoJun 25, 2011 at 17:21
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3Or "You told me you were on the Pill!"– CallithumpianJun 25, 2011 at 17:32
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How long is it since I last saw you? - oh about 7months? - really....– mgbJun 25, 2011 at 19:15
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1"We know what causes that, now"– paviumJun 26, 2011 at 0:21
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Don't raise the topic of her pregnancy yourself; my experience of pregnant ladies is that they're very happy to talk about it - in fact, it will probably be the third thing they mention, after "Hello" and whatever current business is at hand - but at the same time (understandably, I think) they tend to resent the fact that the pregnancy is the first thing that anybody notices. (A friend of mine expressed it this way: "Hey! I'm right here, behind the belly!)
Don't pretend you haven't noticed that she's pregnant, and - when she mentions it - be friendly and interested. But treat her like she's your friend, who just happens to be pregnant, rather than as a pregnancy which just happens to have the face of your friend.
In my experience, you can't go wrong with "Hello! It's been a long time - how have you been?" If you know her well, tell her she looks great (unless she's obviously just been throwing up.)
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If she's in her seventh month, then the bump will be hard to miss. I agree that it should not be the first thing to mention:
Hi! Wow, you're pregnant!
But it's ok to notice it and say so.
Hi! Long time no see. You look great. I didn't realise you are expecting a baby. When are you due?
If it suits your temperament you can try something flowery, such as: it's so nice to see you in full bloom
