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I read the following sentence, "My mother won't put up with my sister or I swearing." My question is, should the sentence say, "my sister or I" or "my sister or me"?

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    Take your sister out of the picture. Which word would you use?
    – Hot Licks
    Jan 21, 2016 at 13:59

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"I" is definitely wrong. You wouldn't say "My mother won't put up with I swearing" either. However, there are still two possible correct wordings: Either using "my" or using "me"

My mother won't put up with my sister or me swearing.

meaning she won't put up with us [when we swear].

My mother won't put up with my sister's or my swearing.

meaning she won't put up with our swearing.

The difference in meaning is negligible and mainly syntactical.

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    Hooray for "... my sister's or my swearing," a construction that is 100% correct and 99% underused. Although this construction is also 98% unfamiliar it hardly ever causes a ripple in conversation if the speaker's tone of voice casually treats it as 100% normal
    – lauir
    Jan 22, 2016 at 7:37
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I never heard such a sentence: My mother won't put up with my sister or I swearing. Even though it exists, since you read it, it sounds weird to me.

I think that the sentence My mother won't put up with my sister or me swearing is correct, because:

  • there's with in the sentence that is a preposition that doesn't support the personal pronoun I.
  • My sister and me are the object of the sentence.
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I recommend with me. I think the general rule is prepositions such as with are followed by object pronouns ( me, you, him, her, us and them )

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The correct way to say it would be me.

Consider these alternatives:

My mother won't put up with us swearing.

My mother wont' put up with we searing.

It's obvious to any native ear that we would say "with us swearing" instead of "with we swearing." Us is used when something is an object. We is used when something is a subject. In this sentence, us is receiving the action of what mother won't put up with, making it an object and not a subject.

Translated into your sentence, you would also use the object me as opposed to the subject I. So the sentence becomes:

"My mother won't put up with my sister and me swearing.

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