I am wondering if anyone might have a suggestion about how to request to be addressed by a personal title and one's surname. For example, I prefer to be addressed as, "Mr. Redgate," but I do not wish to come across as rude. I was taught that it was rude to address someone by their Christian name unless that person has given you permission to address them as such; we were admonished for being too familiar.
I am not fond of most people calling me by my Christian name and especially the abbreviated, "Joe," "Jo Jo" or "Joey." Such familiarity, especially by people with whom I am unfamiliar, is quite offensive to me. What is frustrating is that I know that if I politely request that they refrain from such addresses, I am the one who is thought to be rude.
Does anyone have any suggestions?