My good friend is from Pittsburgh and frequently uses the word whenever to mean the word when. I am aware this is a regional dialect and really wish to respect that, but it is causing numerous problems in our spoken communication. (I am also a native English speaker but am not accustomed to this usage of "when" and "whenever".) I have expressed my concerns to him and asked him to use a neutral dialect to improve communication, but he argues it is valid English, he doesn't understand the difference between the two anyway, he "doesn't have problems with anyone else understanding [him]", and that my misunderstandings are because I "have Asperger's and understand [his] speech literally". (I would guess if no one else has an issue with his speech, it's because he speaks English primarily with people who have the same regional dialect and non-native English-speakers and uses French and German for work. That said, perhaps everyone else does understand what he means without any confusion. When I ask for clarification, he gets irritated.) What should I do?

Examples of such misunderstandings are below:

Example: Whenever my aunt was about to die, she called me into the room and told me she loved me.

I understood this as his aunt periodically became ill to the point where she was close to dying and called him into the room to say she loved him. (My background in healthcare makes this seem like a very plausible situation.) I responded to him in a way that reflected my understanding of the habitual nature of this.

He was annoyed and said it was obvious that the aunt was about to die one time and that, as such, this calling-into-the-room was a one-time occurrence.

Example: Whenever my sister was born, my dad fainted.

It is obvious to me that his sister was born one time. In this instance, although I believe the better word choice is when, I can understand that his father fainted when his sister was born.

Example: Whenever I moved to Germany, I lived in Berlin.

I knew he had moved to Germany once for a (temporary, location-based) job. However, his statement surprised me, and I thought maybe I was wrong (and as a friend I wanted to learn more if he had actually moved numerous times), so I asked how many times he'd moved to/lived in Germany. He was equally surprised by my question, responded he'd moved to Germany once, and could not understand how there could be any confusion in the statement.

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    Where is your question about English Language?
    – Centaurus
    Dec 8, 2015 at 0:48
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    I'm afraid we don't give advice on how to handle social difficulties, even if they stem from dialectal differences. Dec 8, 2015 at 0:48
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    'Whenever my aunt was about to die, she called me into the room and told me she loved me.' means in standard English 'My aunt was about to die on numerous occasions. Whenever one of these occurred, ...'. It is not interchangeable with 'when' in this particular example. Most Anglophones would find it unacceptable. Major dictionaries do not even include this usage as 'dialect'. / If you want to alienate your friend, start talking to him in Scouse or Geordie. I believe there are dedicated dictionaries. Dec 8, 2015 at 0:59
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    @ColinFine I've heard it in Missouri, too, as an intensive, "On the very occasion when . . . " Dec 8, 2015 at 1:45
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    I have noticed this incorrect usage becoming more widespread, almost universal among young people. For example, on non-scripted TV shows (e.g., Judge Judy), whenever is used almost every time the litigant means when. I have simply decided to cringe, dismiss it as an annoyance, and move on.
    – Joe D
    Jun 8, 2019 at 13:11

3 Answers 3


As Wikipedia says, "all scholarly research in linguistics is descriptive."

What you reported are good examples of the "punctual whenever", which is a grammatical feature of Western Pennsylvania English that differs from General American. Wikipedia cites Montgomery, M. B. (2001). "My mother, whenever she died, she had pneumonia": The history and functions of whenever. Journal of English Linguistics 29(3): 234-249. and provides these details:

the "punctual" whenever sub. conj. "at the time that" (Montgomery 2001).

  • Example: "My mother, whenever she passed away, she had pneumonia."
  • Further explanation: punctual descriptor refers to the use of the word for "a onetime momentary event rather than in its two common uses for a recurrent event or a conditional one" (see above citation).
  • Geographic distribution: In the Midlands and the South (see above citation).
  • Origins: Scots-Irish (see above citation).

The examples would be incorrect grammar in General American, but it seems your friend isn't trying to speak General American---he indicated that he's happy with the way he already speaks, and doesn't want to explore it further with you.

What should you do?

  • Option 1: Continue asking your friend for clarification when he's not in the mood. (not recommended)

  • Option 2: Accept that your friend uses "whenever" in this way, and remember how this works in his dialect whenever you hear him use "whenever" and want to know what he means.

  • Option 3 (my recommendation): In addition to option 2, become an amateur (or professional) linguist by reading articles about Western Pennsylvania English, so you can relish in recognizing many more grammar quirks your friend may use which you may not have noticed before. Post questions about them here or on linguistics.SE if you're so inclined.

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    It’s worth noting that this phenomenon is not limited to Western Pennsylvania English. I know several people from Florida, for instance, who seem to use whenever exclusively as a subordinator, when being limited to interrogative status. I have no idea whether the phenomenon has spread from WPE, or whether it’s just arisen independently in different places and has been noted as being particularly prevalent in WPE. Jun 8, 2019 at 13:30

I read this out loud to my wife, and she said she understood perfectly what your friend meant, which surprised me. After some discussion, we agreed that what your friend is intending to say is, "Whenever it was that my aunt was about to die, she called me into the room and told me she loved me." And, "Whenever it was that my sister was born, my dad fainted." And, "Whenever it was that I moved to Germany, I lived in Berlin."

For him, "whenever" seems to have become a spoken shorthand for "whenever it was," meaning he doesn't necessarily recall the exact date and time, but rather what was important to him about the event. If you can accept this understanding of his speech pattern, then your problem is solved: it's just the way your friend habitually refers to an event in the past.

I grew up in the suburbs of Los Angeles in the 50s and 60s, when teenagers habitually peppered every other sentence with "like" and "you know" and "for sure." Example: "Like, we went to the mall, you know, and she was like, 'let's get some new jeans,' you know? And I was like, 'for sure,' you know?" My English professor, who rode the bus to work, would sit behind a couple of teenagers and jot down a hash mark in her notepad for every time one of them said "like," "you know," or "for sure." It was very amusing and so widespread that a name for them was created in popular culture: they became known as "Valley Girls," short for girls who were raised in the predominately white, middle-class San Fernando Valley of the 1960s.

So yes, it is incorrect usage, but so what? I'm sure your friendship is much more important to you than his quirky misuse of a single word. :-)

  • The OP is quite correct. Many people in and around Pittsburgh use whenever in the way described. It very common for me to hear students say "I saw him whenever I had lunch yesterday." Or "He said it whenever we were in class today." It grates on me as incorrect, but it is accepted usage in this region.
    – Jim H
    Sep 14, 2017 at 19:06
  • While Krubo's answer was more focused on what the OP seemed to be asking, your answer here seems to give a reasonable understanding of why the dialectical use of whenever (in a nutshell: shorthand). But, I'm surprised by comment about Valley Girls. Didn't that phenomenon arise in the 80's ... along with the ubiquitous "awesome"? Mar 21, 2021 at 11:25

It is presumptuous of you to try and correct your friend's English like this. That is how he speaks. You should respect this, and get used to it.

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    This does not provide an answer to the question. To critique or request clarification from an author, leave a comment below their post. - From Review Jun 8, 2019 at 23:43
  • @Chappo: It certainly does provide an answer to the question! The question was "What should I do?" My answer is "You should get used to it."
    – TonyK
    Jun 8, 2019 at 23:49
  • TonyK, while you are right that it does technically answer the OP's question, part of answering questions in a helpful way is making a cursory assessment of what that person likely went through before posting to this QA forum. By the OP's attention to detail, it is likely that he has asked others and has already been told to respect his friend's dialect and move on. But OP's aspergers could have compulsive tendencies, and knowing this, your answer likely isn't that helpful and possibly even causes more problems than it cures. Mar 21, 2021 at 11:31

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