I am looking for a word to describe people who have been invited to an event (let's say a wedding or party). When addressing the person, how should they be addressed?

Dear, _________. We are excited to extend to you...

I have considered Invited Guest, but this suggests with the word "guest" that they will be attending. Is the best term Invitee? It sound's strange when used in a sentence. Is there a better word to use?

More information: To better explain... I have created a website where people can RSVP to my event. Only people who have received an invitation should know about the website. I do not know the name of the visitor, but wish to address them in a short personal letter.

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    I am confused. The question suggests you are asking about the wording of the invitation. But in the title you say who have been invited suggesting that that stage is already past. In any event when writing to people it is not customary to begin with Hello. Normally one starts Dear..... It would also not be considered appropriate to address someone as Guest or Invitee. One usually uses the person's name e.g Dear Hilda, Dear Charlie, Dear Mr and Mrs Fortescue, Dear Dr Howes etc.
    – WS2
    Dec 2, 2015 at 17:22
  • I have made an edit to try and explain my question better. You are right about using "dear". @WS2 Dec 2, 2015 at 17:32
  • See english.stackexchange.com/questions/284083/…
    – user116295
    Dec 2, 2015 at 17:36
  • So am I to understand that this is a letter you intend to write before the wedding, but after you have received their acceptance? Why don't you just use their names? I'm still a bit puzzled when you say before confronting them. That suggests meeting them in person. If that is what you mean you certainly wouldn't start Dear... One would normally just call them by name.
    – WS2
    Dec 2, 2015 at 18:00
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    One might use "Dear friend of Banana Panorama" (or whatever "cause" the event is honoring or helping to support).
    – Hot Licks
    Dec 2, 2015 at 19:49

3 Answers 3


How about Dear Friend?


: a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter. Random House

: (used as a polite form of address or in ironic reference) an acquaintance or a stranger one comes across. OED

  • Dear friend covers pretty much. +1)
    – user140086
    Dec 2, 2015 at 18:06
  • I think this may be the best word for my situation. Dec 2, 2015 at 18:08
  • I'm not certain "Dear friend" is either suitable, or very modern "natural" English ... it is the sort of intro you might see in a spam email from someone in Nigeria advising you you have inherited ten million dollars. On a website that the invitee has been interested enough to look up, I think you can just thank them for their interest, and go straight into the details. By the way, your "excitement" is not relevant to the reader, and I would avoid it.
    – Cargill
    Dec 2, 2015 at 21:32
  • I must confess, Dear Friend sounds a bit cheesy to me. Dec 3, 2015 at 9:30

Invitee or attendee would work, but these are very formal and impersonal. This is a case to use mail merge and personalize the message.

  • Invitee is really best left as a legal term. Dec 3, 2015 at 9:43
  • Really? Maybe that's why I've never run into it. I don't read legal documents. Thanks for the clarification. Dec 4, 2015 at 16:36

How about Dear prospective guest?


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