I am looking for a word to describe people who have been invited to an event (let's say a wedding or party). When addressing the person, how should they be addressed?

Dear, _________. We are excited to extend to you...

I have considered Invited Guest, but this suggests with the word "guest" that they will be attending. Is the best term Invitee? It sound's strange when used in a sentence. Is there a better word to use?

More information: To better explain... I have created a website where people can RSVP to my event. Only people who have received an invitation should know about the website. I do not know the name of the visitor, but wish to address them in a short personal letter.

  • I am confused. The question suggests you are asking about the wording of the invitation. But in the title you say who have been invited suggesting that that stage is already past. In any event when writing to people it is not customary to begin with Hello. Normally one starts Dear..... It would also not be considered appropriate to address someone as Guest or Invitee. One usually uses the person's name e.g Dear Hilda, Dear Charlie, Dear Mr and Mrs Fortescue, Dear Dr Howes etc. – WS2 Dec 2 '15 at 17:22
  • I have made an edit to try and explain my question better. You are right about using "dear". @WS2 – Kyle Williamson Dec 2 '15 at 17:32
  • See english.stackexchange.com/questions/284083/… – user116295 Dec 2 '15 at 17:36
  • So am I to understand that this is a letter you intend to write before the wedding, but after you have received their acceptance? Why don't you just use their names? I'm still a bit puzzled when you say before confronting them. That suggests meeting them in person. If that is what you mean you certainly wouldn't start Dear... One would normally just call them by name. – WS2 Dec 2 '15 at 18:00
  • Once an invited person recelves an invitation in the mail... they will be prompted to visit a website for details and to RSVP. On the website I want to write a short description and point of the event. When I say confronting them, I meant addressing them. Because I don't know everyone's IP addresses.. I won't be able to know the name of the invited person when they visit the site. @WS2 – Kyle Williamson Dec 2 '15 at 18:07

How about Dear Friend?


: a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter. Random House

: (used as a polite form of address or in ironic reference) an acquaintance or a stranger one comes across. OED

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  • Dear friend covers pretty much. +1) – user140086 Dec 2 '15 at 18:06
  • I think this may be the best word for my situation. – Kyle Williamson Dec 2 '15 at 18:08
  • I'm not certain "Dear friend" is either suitable, or very modern "natural" English ... it is the sort of intro you might see in a spam email from someone in Nigeria advising you you have inherited ten million dollars. On a website that the invitee has been interested enough to look up, I think you can just thank them for their interest, and go straight into the details. By the way, your "excitement" is not relevant to the reader, and I would avoid it. – Cargill Dec 2 '15 at 21:32
  • I must confess, Dear Friend sounds a bit cheesy to me. – Animadversor Dec 3 '15 at 9:30

Invitee or attendee would work, but these are very formal and impersonal. This is a case to use mail merge and personalize the message.

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  • Invitee is really best left as a legal term. – Animadversor Dec 3 '15 at 9:43
  • Really? Maybe that's why I've never run into it. I don't read legal documents. Thanks for the clarification. – Josh English Dec 4 '15 at 16:36

How about Dear prospective guest?

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