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What's an antonym for "virgin"? A single word would be preferable.

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    Could not it be pregnant?
    – apaderno
    Jun 6, 2011 at 18:31
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    @kiamlaluno There are plenty of people out there that are neither virgin nor pregnant. Some of them can't get pregnant at all (mostly men). Jun 6, 2011 at 18:34
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    For those few so far who have voted to close, how is this possibly subjective or argumentative? If it is, then -any- word-suggestion is such.
    – Mitch
    Jun 6, 2011 at 19:01
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    @nohat, it's not any more subjective than the vast majority of the other single-word-request questions that we get. Very many of those questions ask for something like the "best" or "most understood" word, and I've never seen any other question closed for that reason. At worst you can just edit the question to remove the offending wordage. Jun 6, 2011 at 19:35
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    Among Nerdfighters, the word is virgout.
    – Jon Purdy
    Jun 7, 2011 at 2:50

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This is OP's second question on EL&U, and the previous one refers to the fact that he's "writing an application that deals with blind studies". In light of that, I assume OP is effectively looking for a medical term.

I'm not a doctor, but these people are, and they use the term coitally experienced. Here's an NGram showing they're not alone.

In case anyone objects that (besides not being single-word) coitally experienced applies to males as well as females, I suggest post-coitarchal or perhaps my own neologism coitarchated (which I think would be well enough understood on first encounter by people working in that area).

Coitarche (first experience of full intercourse) didn't really enter the lexicon until the early '80s, but it's clearly formed by association with menarche (a pubescent girl's first period), so I think that's good enough to say coitarche and derivatives relate more to the female than the male side of the experience.

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    +1 and here's a coitarche link. Jun 8, 2011 at 4:17
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    @David Wallace: I think you're probably being unduly influenced by "post-coital", which is so common that even the post-coital cigarette gets nearly 2000 hits in Google Books (and over a hundred times as many on Google Internet). You'd hardly say post-menopausal only lasted for a short time, would you? Feb 18, 2012 at 2:43
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    @tchrist: Apparently not Nov 4, 2012 at 23:22
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    May I suggest that you may have simply asked a suboptimal question? Try this one. Lots of deflowering of “hims” [sic] going on there. And it seems it can be done by a female, or by a male, too.
    – tchrist
    Nov 4, 2012 at 23:33
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    Oh sorry, I misunderstood your statement — which was perfectly clear. My fault, not yours. BTW, the OED2 has an unvirgin verb and an unvirgined ppl. adj. from way back in the 17th century, plus in their 1Q2010 update, they added the verb revirginize. I have no idea how any of that works; I should have thought an unvirgin were the antonym of the noun virgin; I am astonished to find that it actually a verb.
    – tchrist
    Nov 4, 2012 at 23:46
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Try deflowered.

From The Free Dictionary:

deflower

  1. to deprive of virginity, esp by rupturing the hymen through sexual intercourse
  2. to despoil of beauty, innocence, etc.; mar; violate

Though, some might argue that this is exclusively feminine, I might beg to differ.

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    This has an immediacy to it that doesn't carry on through life, I think. Your 80-year-old grandmother is obviously not a virgin, but would you use the term "deflowered" to describe her? I think not.
    – Robusto
    Jun 6, 2011 at 20:29
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    Deflowered is expressly passive, and doesn't necessarily work. That might depend on whether the former virgin considers their virginity to be something given away or something got rid of.
    – misterben
    Jun 6, 2011 at 20:52
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    @Robusto: Given that note, I can only tend to agree; but it depends, for example the OP may want a distinction such as 'you're either a virgin or not', or otherwise 'you're either a virgin or a whore-type-thing'. My instinct drew me to take the former view. I won't stand by the word as perfectly fitting, but it deserves to be contributed within this topic, with the potential to serve purpose, I think. Jun 6, 2011 at 21:28
  • @Robusto once deflowered, forever deflowered.. that's the poignancy of the word's use relative to virginity (particularly for religious groups). Nov 3, 2012 at 19:44
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"Experienced"

As in the Jimi Hendrix song. Though it will only be clear in the right context.

"Sexually expereienced" is explicit, but not one word.

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Several answers from Love, sex, and marriage: a historical thesaurus By Julie Coleman:

a woman who has had sex:
unmaiden; sinner; maiden-wife-widow; damaged goods; fie-fie; amazon; non-virgin

I would go with non-virgin.

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    OK, "non-virgin" is clear, "unmaiden" is descriptive and likely to be understood even if people boggle at you, I'm tempted to try out "fie-fie" just for the fun of it, but "amazon" seems to come out of left field. What a fun book. Jun 7, 2011 at 0:02
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    @dmckee It's fascinating and I would love to read it from cover to cover but it costs an arm and a leg and it certainly won't be in my local library. I live in Oxford so I could go to the Bodleian but their website says it's stored off-site so I guess I'd have to request it from the librarian... and I don't think I could ask for a 'sex thesaurus' without blushing.
    – z7sg Ѫ
    Jun 7, 2011 at 13:20
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Coitized is a polite way to say had sexual intercourse from the verb coitize from the same root as coitus (or maybe a verb derived from coitus).

A Rumanian women's erotic proverb says: 'God save us from being beaten by a blind man (who cannot see where his blows fall) and from being coitized by a lame one (who comes down hard on you).'

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Everyone is concentrating on the "have you had sex" aspect of the word virgin. Stop humanising the word, and look at its ACTUAL usage... virgin forest, virgin snow, virgin olive oil etc, yet they don't have sex to become non-virgin. They simply become IMPURE and SPOILED ETC.

Just because you don't want to describe your 80 year old gran as impure,it does not mean its an inaccurate way to describe her. Virgin in its general(as opposed to it specifically humanised usage) means "in its original state; never having been used". Since granny has been used and no longer in her original state (ignoring just getting old of course), she is impure.

Don't fanny about saying it's not a nice way to describe her. Is it accurate... yes or no?

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    -1 because of the higly culturally defined link between virginity and purity. The OP is not asking about any cultural reference, and the cultural link that established the use of the word for pure things is no longer present in many English-speaking societies. In a medical setting (which the OP seems to ask about) culturally defined values are inappropriate; many people would be seriously offended if a doctor, wanting to know whether they are sexually active, would ask them if they are pure or not, and some would get violent if the doctor were to ask them if they are spoiled.
    – oerkelens
    Jun 4, 2015 at 13:59
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Playing off of Anderson Silva's suggestion, you could use "sexed". It is classified in my dictionary as an adjective, but not quite as needed for this purpose. Its meaning would, therefore, be slightly ambiguous but it could work:

He is sexed / He has been sexed

But a more serious answer is non-celibate:

celibate — having or involving no sexual relations

And sometimes a more specific term applies:

  • slut
  • whore
  • man-whore
  • promiscuous
  • wanton
  • licentious
  • debauched
  • sensual
  • experienced

And so on. You can always, of course, just say non-virgin which is actually how I most often hear people refer to, er, non-virgins. (Also, non-virgin wool, non-virgin olive oil, etc.)

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    Can't beat the scatter-gun effect! But I must just say that your headline verb sex prompted me to realise I'd completely forgotten why Jeanette Winterson titled her book Sexing the Cherry. It refers to determining the sex of a cherry tree (like "sexing kittens"), and is nothing to do with human sexual congress. Jun 7, 2011 at 17:36
  • @Fumble: I acknowledge that in the answer but common usage (at least in my area) is beginning to use sexed as a humorous non-euphemism for fucked. The dictionaries haven't caught up yet -- and it is possible the usage will disappear -- but it is a legitimate option.
    – MrHen
    Jun 7, 2011 at 18:23
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    I hope not. I might want to say - the male chickens are on the left, the female chickens are on the right, and the ones I haven't sexed yet are in the middle.
    – user16269
    Feb 18, 2012 at 1:46

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