You know the phrase ignorance is bliss? I want to tell someone — but nicely — that the reason they're not worried about something is that they just don't know the details.

Something like, I hate to break it to you, but you're in a state of ______. But not denial — that's way too active. Same with sticking your head in the sand. A fool's paradise, except I don't want to call anyone a fool. I thought of "you're just not looking behind the curtain", which I guess would work, but I don't think is a common expression.

I know there must be a phrase for this, but I can't think of it.

  • "blissful ignorance", perhaps?
    – Hot Licks
    Oct 27, 2015 at 0:20
  • Even ignorance is a little stronger than I want to say. It's not normally considered nice to call someone ignorant.
    – mattdm
    Oct 27, 2015 at 0:23
  • Well, take your pick: thesaurus.com/browse/ignorance
    – Hot Licks
    Oct 27, 2015 at 0:25
  • @mattdm In that case, I think "blissfully unaware" does nicely. "Unaware" isn't as deprecating as "ignorant."
    – bob
    Oct 27, 2015 at 4:28

5 Answers 5


innocence, ingenuousness or candor may fit.

Definition of "innocence": simplicity; absence of guile or cunning; naiveté; the ​quality of not having much ​experience of ​life and not ​knowing about the ​bad things that ​happen in ​life.

Definition of "ingenuousness": showing innocent or childlike simplicity and candidness.

Definition of "candor": quality of being frank, open, kind and sincere.


I hate to break it to you, but you're in a state of obliviousness.

The word comes to us from the Latin for forgetting, but its connotation is that of forgetting to pay attention, hence heedless, unsuspecting because unobservant.


I hate to break it to you, but you're naive.

or in noun form

The person is a naif (or naïf)


You might say your friend has her "head in the clouds" (if you're looking for a phrase).


starry eyed?

: happy and hopeful about something, in a way which prevents you from thinking about the bad things about it Cambridge Idioms Dictionary

I hate to break it to you, but you're in a state of starry-eyed-ness.

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