I'm confronting someone and originally wrote that they didn't care about something. That's what I believe. However I realize I'm asserting how they feel and being extreme; I can't know they didn't care.
I'm looking for a word that describes that sort of arguing style--that is, making an extreme and hostile assertion about something I do not know for a fact, and thereby assuming the worst of someone and/or not allowing for shades of gray--so I can express how I feel but acknowledge some room for their point of view.
I want to tell you "you didn't care" but that's unfairly _________. [But I can assert] You didn't try to fix it.
I've thought about "contentious", "strongly worded", "belligerent", "unsympathetic", "close-minded", "worked-up", and "dictative". They're all dancing around the concept but not quite right.
PS I hope this is an appropriate question. I know it's a very specific concept, but it's common enough I thought it could still be useful to others ;)