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Three questions:

  1. Is it appropriate to say "shit happens"? I mean isn't it obscene?
  2. When is it appropriate to say "shit happens" and when not? Is it always obscene or it can be used in some situations?
  3. What can we use instead of "shit happens"? What are the similar phrases?
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    My dad always says "C'est la vie...French for 'shit happens.'" I just thought I'd share. :P
    – kitukwfyer
    May 28 '11 at 20:05
  • @kitukwfyer Um, it seems to me that C'est la vie is French for "That's life".
    – Dronz
    Apr 27 '15 at 4:40
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    @Dronz It does indeed. It's a joke. :P
    – kitukwfyer
    May 7 '15 at 22:53
  • Not as a question title.
    – Hot Licks
    Feb 20 '16 at 13:40
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"Appropriate" depends on context and audience, but I know what you mean. To answer your question, there are no uses of shit that would not be considered profanity, and it should not be used in "polite company" in any context.

The most common non-profane substitute for "shit happens" is "stuff happens." It's suitable for general audiences, but everyone will know what you really mean anyway.

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    Indeed, saying "shit happens" in some situations might not be the best choice lol :D
    – Alenanno
    May 29 '11 at 0:17
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I'm one of those crazy people who don't curse at all, unless quoting someone else, and then reluctantly. I generally use "C'est la vie" (Actually French for "That's life.") or "Que sera sera" (Spanish for "What will be, will be," just like in that song...)...With some people I'll use "wyrd bið ful aræd," but I generally translate it to "Fate is inexorable." The last one, especially, might come off as a bit pretentious, but "C'est la vie" and "Que sera sera" are well-known enough, at least in the US, that you shouldn't come off as over-educated or anything.

None of these are as flippant as "Shit happens." If you want to reduce the vulgarity, but keep the same level of flippancy, you could probably use "Crap happens." Most people do use "Stuff happens," though.

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  • "C'est la vie" is what I was looking for! The funny thing is that in Russian we also use this phrase from time to time. May 29 '11 at 18:45
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It's not "obscene" -- obscenity relates to sexuality, so "fuck" is obscene; "shit" is scatological.

Using a word like "shit" around children will make you unpopular with their parents (though probably popular with the kids themselves). It's accepted in private conversation with most adults.

The phrase "shit happens" is very dismissive of misfortunes, so I would advise you not to use it in reference to other people's troubles, unless you know them very, very well and they can be sure of your actual sympathy. Shrugging off your own difficulties with those words, while vulgar, shows a fine stoicism.

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  • And what can be used instead of "shit happens" (or "stuff happens" like phenry supposed) if I don't want to be dismissive and I want to show my empathy concerning some person's difficulties? May 28 '11 at 19:50
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    @Dmitry - If you want to tell them that their current misfortunes aren't the end of the world (without being as dismissive as "shit happens"), the English have a great phrase: "Worse things happen at sea." You could also use this to minimize your own troubles. If you wish to express your symapthy/empathy without minimizing their troubles, you could say "I feel your pain", or something similar.
    – MT_Head
    May 28 '11 at 20:05
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    Obscenity is not confined to the realm of sexuality. It also relates to swearing and cursing. May 28 '11 at 20:11
  • The legal definition of obscenity (in the US) revolves around "prurient interest", which can be broader than just sexuality -- and for some sad individuals can include scatology -- but that, strictly defined, wouldn't include "shit" in this sense. May 28 '11 at 20:23
  • Perhaps "vulgarity" would be a more appropriate term than "obscenity" in this case, as it covers a multitude of audience-inappropriate language :)
    – calum_b
    May 31 '11 at 19:22
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Recently here in Australia the Leader of the opposition got in political trouble because, in response to an Australian soldier dieing in Afghanistan he said (on television) "sometimes shit happens". He wasn't criticised for saying "shit", he was criticised for being flippant about a soldiers death.

I cant speak for other cultures, but here the dismissive nature of the comment is potentially more rude than "shit", a word which is regularly heard from journalists, politicians, academics, etc.

If you said "crap happens" or "stuff happens" people would think you were being pretentious.

In general though the best advise with swearing in a language / region other than your own is don't :)

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  • You've got an interesting point of view either. How do you think what should the politician say instead of "shit happens"? I suppose that even saying "c'est la vie" isn't appropriate... "yes, it's always sad to hear about our guys dying at war" perhaps? May 30 '11 at 4:23
  • @Dmitry, certainly in Australia it would be a political mistake to brush off a soldiers death no-matter which words you chose. That is more of a political issue than a language issue though.
    – jsj
    May 30 '11 at 9:48
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As I've taught my daughter, if she's not sure if something's appropriate and she has to decide on her own, just think of this question: "Would The Queen approve?"

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    Yeah, but what queen?
    – CesarGon
    Jun 21 '11 at 1:34
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    Oh, yeah, good question (+1), heheh! I'm Canadian, so that would be our Head of State, The Queen of England. Jun 21 '11 at 1:39
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    ;-) And there are even places with no queen at all!
    – CesarGon
    Jun 21 '11 at 17:52
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    @CesarGon: ...for certain occasions, there's always the King's English: "-Ahem-, I pinched my finger in the door!" Jun 21 '11 at 18:12
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    Indeed!
    – CesarGon
    Jun 21 '11 at 20:40

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