I'm confused as I've been googling a bit and have seen "dead husband", "former husband", ... and even "ex-husband"...
So what would you use for ______ in polite conversation:
The ______ of the woman in the big house down the street must've liked his gadgets a lot!
I like working in your garden because your ______ had all the tools I need.
I'm looking for one (or maybe two?) words that politely provide context.