Suppose somebody has wronged me, and I want them to make amends. Say I ask for an apology. What are my efforts called? Am I also making amends, or is there a word/phrase that describes the action of trying to get somebody else to make amends?

  • you are in effect trying to make amends. – gelolopez Aug 26 '15 at 17:11
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    I think you are demanding an apology. – user66974 Aug 26 '15 at 17:16
  • You're seeking compensation, restitution, etc. To my mind, giving an apology wouldn't normally count as *making amends", so apologise and make amends isn't just meaningless repetition. – FumbleFingers Aug 26 '15 at 18:06
  • For such demand, you may use request for [an] apology – Graffito Aug 26 '15 at 18:59
  • 'Seeking satisfaction' is perhaps used more generally. – Edwin Ashworth Aug 26 '15 at 20:57

One of the definitions of appeal is:

: to try to make someone do or accept something as right or proper by saying things that are directed at a person's feelings, attitudes, etc.

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  • A typical expression is: appeal to their sense of right and wrong. – jxh Aug 27 '15 at 18:12

As the wronged party, you want the offender to make amends; that is not you making amends.

One tactic commonly used when one person is seeking (eg. an apology) from another, is to employ the classic "guilt trip".

So to describe taking this action, you might say: "I guilt-tripped him/her into doing what I wanted."

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    I know this is a much broader term than what your specific situation asks for, but it's as close to it as I can think of at the moment. – W9WBH Aug 27 '15 at 7:16
  • Please don't guilt-trip me! I'll respond much better if you give me a straightforward I-message. See en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I-message. – aparente001 Aug 29 '15 at 15:47

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