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I think everybody has such a friend: you are not really close friends, you mainly talk about one topic. This topic is the reason why you text/message your friend and mostly not things like "how are you?".

Here's specific example:

I've got a friend who lives 9000 km away with a time difference of nine hours. That's why it's pretty hard to reach her and it's nearly impossible to talk to her everyday to get the latest news. I already visit her, so she's more than "someone that I used to know". But we share interest in one topic, so everytime she or I see something about it (e.g. book, ad, social media post) we're sending a text or a photo. But that's pretty much it, we don't ask for work or the daily routine, because we noticed it takes too much time till we get the responds, e.g. if she asks "how was your day?" after she's done with work, I'm sleeping so she'll get the responds hours later and it has nothing to do with my mood the day before.

I think we all have such friends, you meet them once or twice but it's somehow connected to a topic (maybe a band or a movie).

So I am asking what would you call such a friendship, if it's a friendship after all.

I was thinking about a sketchy friendship maybe? I'm sure you'll find better words.

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    I think a work-around is best: We're not close friends, but we are united by a common interest .... – Edwin Ashworth Aug 13 '15 at 14:24
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In U.S. English, it's common to refer to people with whom you have a positive relationship based on a single shared activity by the name of that activity followed by friend or friends. For example:

  • He's a volleyball friend.

  • She's a birdwatching friend.

  • They're writing-group friends.

  • We're drinking buddies.

I don't think that a widely adopted generic term for such friendships exists. None of the possibilities that come to my mind—"single-connection friends," "one-activity friends," "shared-interest friends," "context-dependent friends," "facet friends"—seems especially appealing.

  • Thanks for your answer, I think your solution sounds great for a shared activity, and as you mentioned there might be no common term for a shared interest. Too bad actually, it would be nice if you could seperate those friendships easily. It looks like as if I have to stay with "We are friends, well not really close friends but..." – 0lli.rocks Aug 14 '15 at 7:31
  • love "context-dependent friends", I think I'll be using that instead of frenemies. – drawde83 Oct 7 '15 at 21:24
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May not be the exact answer, but I simply think of something that I never heard before, "topical friendship". And I've found something, that in my view, support the idea.

There’s nothing wrong with Carole or Tanya for maintaining this mostly topical friendship that only occurs when they happen to see each other. Just think about how often a grocery store cashier asks, “How are you?” before s/he starts ringing up your purchase. Your response is probably an automatic “Fine.” I’ll bet you don’t dump your family drama, a recent health scare and financial troubles on the conveyor belt along with cantaloupe and dish detergent.

Update:

Inspiring with @Edwin's comment and based on the page 470 of "The Global Internet Economy", it seems that Homophily could fit the situation that OP describes. In Wikipedia it is defined as:

Homophily (i.e., "love of the same") is the tendency of individuals to associate and bond with similar others. The presence of homophily has been discovered in a vast array of network studies. More than 100 studies that have observed homophily in some form or another and they establish that similarity breeds connection.These include age, gender, class, and organizational role.

  • Thanks for your answer, it looks fine! Even though I never heard any cashier asking me "How are you?" (Germany). I think the answer also depends on which country you're living it. E.g. US and Germany is completly different, I would like to see more upcoming answers regarding different cultures :) german-way.com/history-and-culture/cultural-comparisons/… – 0lli.rocks Aug 13 '15 at 14:07
  • You're welocome @Olli and agree with you! – Eilia Aug 13 '15 at 14:14
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    This is at best a rare usage of 'topical'; most anglophones on seeing 'topical friendship' might first think that it was one that had appeared in the recent news. – Edwin Ashworth Aug 13 '15 at 14:20
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This is a casual friendship. (As opposed to a close friendship.)

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