I came across with this sentence

"As a child he held an unbearable curiosity, he needed to question everything"

Since english is not my first language, I was giving it a second thought and trying to understand if the word "unbearable" was used correctly. By this, what I mean to say is that "unbearable" seems to me as a negative word (unbearable pain, torture, and so on...) . However, the fact that "he needed to question everything" could be an awesome feature of his personality.

From journalism to engineering, curiosity is definitely a good thing, something desirable. I believe that there's some passionate feeling involved in the use of the word to enforce the feeling towards questioning.

I looked for unbearable in the dictionary and of course give me the "not bearble" definition. Going to the "to bear" definition, it leaves the door open for a slightly more possitive meaning.

Does "unbearable" hold any ambivalent meaning or I should assume that every time would mean something negative?

In the former case I should try to get it from the context (or maybe there's a related word that fits better and is used more often to avoid confussion). In the latter case, perhaps the mother of this child had had enough, given the amount of questions, and "unbearable" was correctly used.

  • I think you mean "uncontrollable" curiosity.
    – user66974
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:26
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    Depends what it's paired with. "Unbearable ecstasy" surely is a different class of experience from "unbearable anguish."
    – Robusto
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:29
  • @Robusto I can't say that I've experienced unbearable ecstasy and I'm not sure I would want to! If something is not bearable" how can it possibly be nice? If the curiosity was *unbearable the kid was clearly a pain in the neck.
    – WS2
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:35
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    Agree with Robusto, it's a fairly common and effective superlative (even hyperbolic, as @Yeshe suggests) for 'over-the-top-ness', be it bad as asker is familiar with, or good in the tears of joy sense.
    – Patrick M
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:38
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    @WS2: How sad for you! ^_^ I would say that truly great sex approaches being unbearable. Perhaps that's why it's so infrequent and of such relatively short duration.
    – Robusto
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:50

2 Answers 2


It is being used figuratively, a bit of hyperbole, but it is fine to use it in such a way. You could say someone is unbearably good, that their extreme virtue makes being around them insufferable, through no fault of the saint in question.

  • Yes but wouldn't it be a not desirable thing to be insufferable? Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:34
  • the way I am constructing this the person is great but being around them is insufferable, perhaps because how good they are causes others either to be inspired to further greatness or (and this is the reason it would be insufferable) it causes people to feel negatively about themselves and their apparent failings. Arguably, by definition it is good to be good, and it is hard to fault something for not being bad. but good things can indirectly cause negative outcomes.
    – Yeshe
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 19:40
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    If the sentence were written from an adult's point of view, a child's endless questioning could become unbearable.
    – ewormuth
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 20:14

The term can be used to mean something extremely good as in the novel and film The Unbearable Lightness of Being.

According to this Wikipedia article,

The "unbearable lightness" in the title also refers to the lightness of love and sex, which are themes of the novel. Kundera portrays love as fleeting, haphazard and possibly based upon endless strings of coincidences, despite holding much significance for humans.

The connotation is that the experience is at the edge of pleasure to the point of being just about intolerable, similar to the phrase hurts so good by Mr. Mellencamp

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