What is the word a deep desire that some external force has kept you from gaining it? For instance in the movie Foxcatcher, the rich guy always wanted to be wrestler but his mother didn't let him because she thaught it was a low sport and it was beneath him and this made a 'deep desire' in him to be a wrestler. Is there a word for that? The word I'm looking has some kind of negative meaning. This 'deep desire' makes you do stupid things and kind of has a bad effect on your personality.
forbidden fruit - The term comes from the biblical story of Adam and Eve eating from the Tree of Knowledge - the one thing that God prohibited Adam and Eve to do.
Mary made a point of telling her son not to play with the kids accross the road, but of course this was a forbidden fruit to Tom, and it made him want to play with them all the more.
The problem with drug prohibition is that it can be something of a forbidden fruit to teenagers looking to establish their identity, and doing what's prohibited and frowned upon can become an expression of that identity.
Movie censorship is a classic forbidden fruit problem - the act of censoring it makes people want to see it all the more.
OP requests a single-word that describes 1) a singular, strong desire 2) which is by circumstances, prohibited (but, nevertheless, pursued) 3) to negative effect (makes you do stupid things).
That’s an awful lot to ask of one solitary word, as a result of which (as I write this), of the 7 answers submitted, the only two that have positive votes are multiple-word answers, while the other five answers, all of which have suggested single-words, have received no votes at all.
A Google summary of the film Foxcatcher, relates:
When wealthy John du Pont invites Olympic wrestler Mark Schultz to move to his estate and help form a wrestling team for the 1988 Olympics, Mark sees a way to step out of the shadow of his charismatic brother, Dave. However, du Pont begins to lead Mark down a dark road, causing the athlete's self-esteem to slip. Meanwhile, du Pont becomes fixated on bringing Dave into the fold, eventually propelling all three toward an unforeseen tragedy.
One way of describing John du Pont's driving and prohibited motivation is a the French loan term "idee fixe," Anglicized as "fixation." Another would be "obsession."
The words idée fixe also occur explicitly: for example, in Arthur Conan Doyle's Sherlock Holmes:
There is the condition which the modern French psychologists have called the “idée fixe,” which may be trifling in character, and accompanied by complete sanity in every other way. A man might form such an idée fixe... and under its influence be capable of any fantastic outrage.-—Arthur Conan Doyle, The return of Sherlock Holmes
An idée fixe is a preoccupation of mind believed to be firmly resistant to any attempt to modify it, a fixation. The name originates from the French idée, "idea" and fixe, "fixed." Although not used technically to denote a particular disorder in psychology, idée fixe is used often in the description of disorders, and is employed widely in literature and everyday English. (Wikipedia)
What is it, what nameless, inscrutable, unearthly thing is it; what cozening, hidden lord and master, and cruel, remorseless emperor commands me; that against all natural lovings and longings, I so keep pushing, and crowding, and jamming myself on all the time; recklessly making me ready to do what in my own proper, natural heart, I durst not so much as dare?.-—Herman Melville, Moby Dick
1: a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly: compelling motivation ; (M-W online)
Tantalised / tantalise From the ancient Greek tale of Tantalus, it's the original forbidden fruit story. It's used more to express a deep desire that just can't quite be reached, so is the precursor to the ops question, that would lead them down the path. However I feel it could be a useful addition to the language for this situation
Tantalus (Ancient Greek: Τάνταλος, Tántalos) was a Greek mythological figure, most famous for his eternal punishment in Tartarus. He was made to stand in a pool of water beneath a fruit tree with low branches, with the fruit ever eluding his grasp, and the water always receding before he could take a drink. He was the father of Pelops, Niobe and Broteas, and was a son of Zeus1 and the nymph Plouto. Thus, like other heroes in Greek mythology such as Theseus and the Dioskouroi, Tantalus had both a hidden, divine parent and a mortal one.
You could possibly use the word "illicit" which means "forbidden, particularly by law", but is often associated with the "darker" side of human behaviour, in particular relating to sex and drugs, and tends to be associated with "urges".
Wrestling doesn't fall into the "sex and drugs" category but it has good connotations of something that you keep secret: a desire for illicit activities would tend to be kept hidden from other people, which sounds a bit like the desire for wrestling in this case. It suggests that the subject's desire to become a wrestler is similar in some ways to the desire that someone else might have to visit a prostitute (for example, you would never discuss it with your mother!), and this might conjure up a good effect in the mind of the reader.
This is often called frustration:
1.0 The feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something:
tears of frustration rolled down her cheeks
1.1 [COUNT NOUN] An event or circumstance that causes one to feel frustrated:
the inherent frustrations of assembly line work
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I don't have a single word, but that sounds like a dashed hope.
You could say lust because it does not only refer to sexual attraction.
1.1 [IN SINGULAR] A passionate desire for something:
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