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Which of the following is correct - or are both of these examples grammatical?

  1. This includes me, my friend and my brother.
  2. This includes myself, my friend and my brother.


Pleas note that this question here: Rules for the usage of "me" VS. "myself"? only talks about the use of "myself" when it refers to the same person as the Subject of the verb. This is not the case in examples (1) and (2) above.

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    Almost always you want to use me there. – Robusto May 26 '15 at 11:24
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    My wife uses "moi". I use "pwah". – Hot Licks May 26 '15 at 11:40
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    (As stated below, "myself" can be used most places where "me" or "I" might be used. The choice is more a artistic one than semantic.) – Hot Licks May 26 '15 at 12:20
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    This might be as much about etiquette as grammar, but: I grew up learning that it's polite to put yourself last: "This includes my friend, my brother, and me." Although this might be changing (increasingly I hear younger people say "me and Joe") I think it's still good advice in professional situations. Since I think it sounds fine in casual situations, it's probably simplest to do it that way all the time. – Greg Hendershott May 26 '15 at 22:14
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    This is not a duplicate of the linked to question or the duplicate linked to in the close votes. There may be a duplicate somewhere, but it's most certainly noit that one. COME ON DUPE VOTERS read the questions and answers properly!! – Araucaria May 28 '15 at 23:06

I'm sure this is elsewhere, but in another form. It certainly bears repeating though.

You can (almost always) figure out which pronoun to use by removing the rest of the people from the list.

This includes me.

Obviously, if there is another part of the sentence, don't forget that the pronoun can be affected. "Myself" is reflexive, and so normally requires "I" to be the subject of the sentence.

I sent myself postcards from Spain.
I sent myself, Tom, and Larry postcards from Spain.

Reflexive pronouns can be used for emphasis (which is where my "almost always" goes horribly awry).

The kids did nothing when they got home from school. I myself had to sweep and mop after my hard day at work.

In short, for your example, use "me".

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    +1 This is the simplest and best test of when to use one or the other, which I have followed since about the fourth grade. Even Grammar Girl concurs. – Robusto May 26 '15 at 11:27
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    This rule works always. – John May 26 '15 at 19:51
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    I don't think the "remove the other people" test works at all. People who use "myself" where they should use "me" do it because they feel it is more formal or polite so they use it regardless of whether there are other people in the sentence. I get plenty of emails saying things like "If this is not possible, please come and discuss it with myself." – David Richerby May 27 '15 at 7:10
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    @EthanFurman Because it shows that people who misuse "myself" do so even in sentences where they're the only person mentioned. If they don't know that "discuss it with myself" is wrong, they can't use the test to determine whether "discuss it with John and myself" is wrong. You can only apply the test if you already know how to use "myself", in which case the test is redundant. – David Richerby May 27 '15 at 7:32
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    @Cord On whose say-so? Many of the greatest writers in the English language have used this construction. On whose study of what proficient native speakers do is this ungrammatical? No self-respecting professor of linguistics or English grammar and syntax would say so. – Araucaria Jun 2 '15 at 12:15

Both are correct.

myself can be used in place of me or I in similar (informal) contexts - especially in compound subjects, objects and complements.

Alain and myself (I) got it right.

They requested Alain and myself (me) to watch for intruders.

This includes my friend, my brother and myself (me) - A little pointer here: for the sake of politeness, we place myself in the end.


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    Note that the British English entry lists this usage for "myself" as "not standard". – ClickRick May 26 '15 at 15:31
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    Using reflexive pronouns in this way has become accepted in a stylistic way to add emphasis; e.g. "I, myself, would never use it." In this regard, its value is wholly subjective. I find it rather affectatious rather than polite. – John May 26 '15 at 19:47
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    @Greenonline Scroll down the link above until you find the section "British English". I was referring to the British entry on the same page. – ClickRick May 26 '15 at 21:34
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    I think this is a poor answer because it doesn't mention that many people find the non-reflexive use of "myself" to be incorrect. – David Richerby May 27 '15 at 7:15
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    @DavidRicherby That's completely untrue. Nobody is taught grammar rules. Grammar is the tacit knowledge that native speakers acquire without ever being taught anything at all. The study of grammar is the endeavour to undercover these rules that we all obey without consciously being aware of them. – Araucaria May 29 '15 at 8:36

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