I have to send a mail to a group which has my team members along with other co-workers. I want to write "Our team is drafting a report" since my team members are also present in the group. I think the correct format is "My team is drafting a report". But using "My" instead of "Our" feels possessive since I'm the junior most member of the team. What should I do? Go with "Our team" or "My team"?

  • 'Our team' is a lot more collegial-sounding, especially if (as you state) you are the team's most junior member.
    – Erik Kowal
    Commented Dec 30, 2014 at 11:10

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In your specific case, I would use 'our'. As you stated, it does sound more collegial and inclusive. (And you're copying your teammates on the message.)

Our is appropriate for situations when you are communicating with someone else on the same team/in the same organization, when you want to be inclusive, and when you want to exhibit participatory leadership or don't have an official leadership role.

My is appropriate for situations when you do have an official leadership role, when you're communicating with someone outside your team/organization, when you'll be delegating the work or otherwise won't actually be doing the work yourself, or when you need to put on a show of strength. In spoken conversation, tone of voice can soften the "possessiveness" of my, but of course, written communication doesn't allow that.


Use our so it doesn't come across as tail wagging the dog :)

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