I used "It's not fair", but someone told me "fair" is the "F" word, and they don't like it in their house. Should I avoid using it?
ps: sorry if my question offended someone, I didn't mean to it.
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I can't cite this but it sounds like a fairly common joke.
People often say things like, "[a word] is a four letter word around here".
'a four letter word' is a reference to the many profanities that do indeed have four letters. By saying that a seemingly inoffensive word is a 'four letter word', you are saying that for some reason that word should not be said, usually for humourous purposes.
I suggest that by saying 'Fair' was the F-word, your friend is doing the same thing. Like the old adage that "life isn't fair", your friend is simply saying that 'fair' doesn't happen and so the word may as well be a profanity.
They are not really offended by the word - just telling you that you shouldn't expect things to happen fairly.
This is merely conjecture but it seems likely.
The phrase "the f word" is primarily a euphemism for the word "fuck", which is usually considered the English language's "strongest" swear word (how offensive it is varies, and is another topic).
No-one is offended by the use of the word "fair", unless, perhaps, out of an unusual, and unusually strong, philosophical aversion to the concept. It is not usual to refer to "fair" (or any word other than "fuck") as "the f word".