What term is used for a person whom you consider yours and don't want to share him with anyone?

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    ?? Dominatrix ?? – Blessed Geek Oct 7 '14 at 18:31
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    In most Englsih speaking countries, we have rules against owning people. – bib Oct 7 '14 at 18:53
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    my precious?... – ermanen Oct 7 '14 at 18:58
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    It would help to know the context of your attempted description. Right now, we can only guess why it’s insufficiently descriptive to call this person your boyfriend or say, simply, “he’s mine.” As others have noted, nothing you’ve said makes it clear what it is about this other person that you’re reluctant to share (assuming you aren’t asking about literally, wholly owning another person). Do you not want others to be able to talk to him? Do you not want others to know about him? – Tyler James Young Oct 7 '14 at 20:01
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    Get your lying filthy grubby little hands off my man, you thieving bitch I'd say conveys the message who's the "boss". – Mari-Lou A Oct 8 '14 at 6:03

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It sounds as though you are describing a "thrall" or "slave". If the arrangement is mutually recognised and consensual then a "submissive", "pet", or "bottom" - taken to the extreme, possibly even "gimp". If the individual has been emotionally browbeaten into your thrall they may be said to be "whipped", with the vulgar "bitch" gaining increasing acceptance as a term of endearment.

If the arrangement is not mutually recognised and consensual , or if you are looking for a term like "boyfriend" or "husband", then eventually "ex", "victim" or "plaintiff" might be appropriate...


He or she is "spoken for".

If a person or thing is spoken for or has been spoken for, someone has claimed them or asked for them, so no-one else can have them.



You can say that you consider him yours alone or exclusively yours.


Personal and not shared with anyone: Legally, the word is SPOUSE

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    Except when it's "girlfriend", "boyfriend", "lover", "significant other", "mistress", etc, you mean? – Dan Bron Oct 7 '14 at 20:55
  • well, i would not put mistress or extra marital affair on the same platform. – weakphoneme Oct 9 '14 at 18:10

There's a few options here. The immediate answer could be boyfriend or significant other to refer to someone you're in an exclusive relationship with, though these don't necessarily denote exclusivity. You could also refer to that person as "taken", as in "he's taken".


I think the exact term strongly depends on who uses it. From the "owner's" perspective the term can be anything between beloved one and property, from the opposite standpoint it can be anything between crazy and sadist. And a third party might describe it as Something is definitely wrong with this couple or These guys are really strange.


What about "Chattel", it specifically refers to property but when talking about a person that you "own" then it's within context.


I'm going to assume that it's the word (not the person) that you consider "personal don't want to share".

So, a pet name:

A nickname, especially a name used by those in love with one another.

My boyfriend won't let me call him by his pet name, Pookie, in public.

  • Although the assumption doesn't fit with the details of the question ("whom you consider yours" and "share him"), it's still +1 for a good answer to an optimistic skew on the question and it's most likely that the answer the OP is looking for is itself a pet name. – DeveloperInDevelopment Oct 8 '14 at 15:25
  • @imsotiredicantsleep "Whom" isn't grammatical (it should be "who", because it's not genitive or dative), therefore the OP is non-English, therefore "whom" and "him" might be supposed to be "which" and "it". – ChrisW Oct 8 '14 at 15:29
  • Confusing "who"/"whom" is common enough even for native speakers - it's the awkward "him" that stands out to me. But I still think that "whom"->"which" and "him"->"it" is an optimistic reach - not at all impossible, but optimistic. They also ask for a term for a person, not a term for a term for a person. They ask "What term is used for a person" not "what do you call the term used for a person". – DeveloperInDevelopment Oct 8 '14 at 15:49
  • @imsotiredicantsleep Perhaps a language has masculine and feminine, but not neuter, nouns and pronouns: "English as she is spoke". And I thought that maybe "word-for-a-person" might be some kind of compound noun, similar to "name". – ChrisW Oct 8 '14 at 15:54
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    @ChrisW 'Whom' is completely grammatical here; have you forgotten it's also accusative? 'Whom you consider yours' is similar to 'you consider him yours'. – Aeon Akechi Jun 1 '16 at 14:21

The adj., Private is what I would use to refer to such a person.


If you are trying to capture the fact that this is someone to whom you confide private matters (tell secrets), then that person is a confidant.


Typically English speaking countries (America specifically) don't have any nouns related to ownership with no intent to share. The only example I can think of is if we are in a romantic relationship with the individual. Even then, "ownership" is implied rather indirectly. For example: "She is my lady". or "Back off, that is my girlfriend". If it is on a purely friendship level, ownership obviously wouldn't apply but jealousy may occur which is implied in a different manner.

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