What's the difference between "stay the night," "stay for the night" and "sleep over"? There's also "stay over".

  • May be a matter of opinion? Will this start debate?
    – Kris
    Sep 26, 2014 at 12:45
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    Any differences are a matter of opinion. In my opinion, teenagers are more likely to have their friends "sleep over" - they even use the one-word form in "Mum! Can I invite my friends for a sleepover tonight?". And I'm slightly more likely to include the preposition in "Let's stay for the night" in contexts where it might have been possible to stay for more than one night (but only slightly). Sep 26, 2014 at 12:52
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    I don't think there is much to chose between 'stay the night' and 'stay for the night', but 'sleep over' is often used as a composite noun (sleep-over), to describe an arranged social gathering, usually for children and young teens. Though I seem to remember it being claimed that Mrs Blair had attended a 'sleep-over' hosted by Rebecca Brookes, which caused some embarrassment.
    – WS2
    Sep 26, 2014 at 12:55

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This is subjective, but here's my take:

"Stay the night" is pretty generic. "Come visit me, if you can't find a hotel you can stay the night."

"Stay for the night" is more rare, and in my experience might be used to indicate that it's only going to last one night. "His girlfriend kicked him out and he showed up on my doorstep, so I let him stay for the night."

"Sleep over" is pretty rarely used among adults, and it would imply a sort of good clean fun. If a female friend invited me to "sleep over," I would assume that, first, we were going to hang out, maybe watch a movie or play games, but there would be nothing sexy involved.

There's another term I hear most often here in California, and that's "crash," as in "crash at your place" or "crash on your couch." This tends to imply a very informal arrangement, probably just a pillow, a couple of blankets, and the couch. If you say "He's been crashing at my place for a couple weeks," that would imply that he's staying with you, but he hasn't moved in and you expect that he'll be gone soon.

  • Thank you all for your explanations. How about the phrase "stay over"?
    – Peter
    Sep 27, 2014 at 19:44

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