When somebody is going through a difficult life situation, people will commonly say, "We're pulling for you."
Where did this term come from? It sounds rather strange!
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A Google Books search finds two examples of the phrase from the 1890s and two more from the very early 1900s. From "Johnnie You've Lost," reprinted from the San Francisco Examiner as part of "The Sketch Book—Character in Outline," in Current Literature (February 1890):
Both [bare-knuckles fighters] were winded and blood was flowing in streams. As soon as the men were in their corners the human stake [a waitress to be claimed, along with a gold ring, as a prize by the winner] lavished encouragement on Buckner, and as he was returning to the scratch cheered him with the remark:
"Don't give up, Johnnie; I'm pulling for you."
From Edgar Fawcett, "Old Uncle Vanderveer," in Outing (May 1895):
“So you won't help me, Uncle?” he muttered, sadly though not sullenly. “You won't give me a pull, so to speak?"
“One would suppose I'd never done any kind of pulling for you till now, Larry," came the answer, blent with a mildly sarcastic smile.
From Arthur McIlroy, "Pan-American Babies," in National Magazine (August 1901):
"I like the idea of naming a child for a good man. Many's the youngster that has Bill Daly for a handle to the name he inherited. Their mothers would ask me for the privilege! Think of that, my boys, when the privilege was all the other way. I'd say to myself, 'Bill, old man, here's another little one pulling for you—pulling you in the right direction.'"
And from the "Abbeville, N.C." report in Typographical Journal (August 1, 1902):
The convention committee is grateful for the support it is receiving , and is especially pleased with the letter received from Charlotte. We are glad to know that our neighbors are with us and pulling for us. We have a worthy ally in Charlotte, and with her help will make "The Old North State" heard from.
Two other interesting matches come from the years 1904–1904. From George Ogden, Tennessee Todd: A Novel of the Great River (1903):
"Andrews, as I said, is strong. He's got a strong combination pulling for him, too. The department don't doubt his ability to carry out the contract, but it does doubt the ability of his trains to make as good all-around time, up and down, and all considered, as the boats. ..."
And from "Beta-Epsilon: University of Wisconsin," in The Caduceus of Kappa Sigma (December 1904):
One of the greatest magnets which tends to draw prominence to a Fraternity and give it strength, too, is the athletic fraction of college life. We certainly have the magnet pulling for us "with all fours." Bro. Vanderboom, half-back on the foot-ball team, in the recent elections to the Athletic Board secured the Presidency, and Bros. Archie Pearsons and Art. Miller received prominent positions.
A much earlier example uses the phrase "pulling for him" not in the sense of "pulling on his behalf" but "pulling in direct competition with another for possession of him." From Mary Vidal, The Cabramatta Store; A Tale of the Bush (1850):
"Just so, Mat. Not that I care, I am sure, which [girl] Parry takes ; but 'tis fairly spoiling the young man to have two girls pulling for him, as you may say. However, they say he hasn't been very steady, and there are others have more claim on him now than either of these girls: but, hark! don't I hear the rails down ? Aye, and here she is!"
Unlike in this last example, the sense of "pulling for [someone]" in the other examples is "supporting [someone's] efforts spiritually or materially or both." Less clear is what the the metaphorical pulling originally referred to. Candidates include participants in a tug-of-war (as Josh61 suggests), a horse or other dray animal hitched to a plow or wagon, a person rowing or plying an oar, and a magnet. Of these possibilities, the dray animal and the rower may have been the most familiar images to contemporaneous audiences, but I haven't found any source that convincingly resolves the question.
Update (July 18, 2023): Early newspaper occurrences of 'pulling for you'
An Elephind search for the phrase "pulling for you" in the sense of "expressing support for you" turns up a match that is more than 30 years older than the February 1890 instance from Current Literature. From an untitled item in the [Columbus, Texas] Colorado Citizen (September 15, 1859):
Mr. Jo. A. Kxrgan is announced in the Houston Republic as a candidate, as a Houston man, for Chief Clerk of the House of Representatives. Go it, Jo!— we're "pulling" for you!
From "The Home Team," in in the [Denver, Colorado] Rocky Mountain News (April 30, 1890):
They [the Denver baseball team] left [for Kansas City] over the Union Pacific. The boys all were in high spirits last night and expressed the belief that they would win the majority of games on the trip. If they put up the same kind of a game they did Sunday and yesterday they certainly will. Every enthusiast in the city is pulling for you, boys, so go in and win.
Another match (also from Texas appears in "A Lilly White Talks Texas Politics in Washington," in the Brenham [Texas] Weekly Banner (October 23, 1890):
Will the colored people of Washington county follow the lead of a man who has no more interest in their welfare than the furtherance of his own s[c]hemes? A man who to-day blows hot and to-morrow cold? Who one day is your friend pulling for you, and next calls a convention and changes the ticket? Does such uncertain political methods inspire confidence in his leadership, or does it rather create a doubt of his pretended friendship?
Brenham, Texas, is only about 33 miles from Columbus, Texas, as the crow flies, so it appears that this area of east-central Texas may have been an early locus of the figurative expression "pulling for you." Other early matches for the expression occur in the [Provo, Utah] Evening Dispatch (July 20, 1895) and the Houston [Texas] Post (cited in the [Washington, D.C.] Morning Times, September 6, 1896). Houston is about 68 miles southeast of Brenham and 70 miles due east of Columbus.
One early quasi-literal instance of the expression appears in "Foresters' Picnic: A Gala Day in the Woods at Chicago Park: Winners of the Prizes: The Married Men Defeat the Unmarried in th Tug of War," in the [Grass Valley, California] Daily Morning Union (June 16, 1893):
The tug of war between the single and married men of Grass Valley was witnessed by the sweethearts of the former and the wives of the latter with much interest. The married men won, thereby proving that it is not good for man to live alone—better to have your wife pulling for you.
This instance and the one from the 1890 San Francisco Examiner cited in Current Literature suggest that California, too, may have been an early hot spot for use of "pulling for you."
I think it may come from 'Tug of war' as The Phrase Finder suggest:
- I am guessing that it comes "rope pull," a group activity at picnics, etc. This looks like what we call "Tug o' War" in Britain. Is that the case? Yes, that's what we in the U.S. call it too. But I just couldn't think of the term.
pulling for someone or something: (from TFD)
- to support and cheer for someone, a group, or something. We're pulling for you. We know you can do it! All the students were pulling for the team.
Could it have to do with the definition of “pull” that is “[TRANSITIVE] if a performer or a performance pulls an audience, a large number of people come to watch them”. So it would be someone shouting outside the circus tent, to “vouch” for you, vote for you, verbally gather attention and votes for you. And their reputation is on the line for you. That would get you the same impact that word of mouth would get. A fast, large, trusting audience. Source for definition here: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.macmillandictionary.com/amp/dictionary/british/pull_1
It's a crew (rowing, 2s, 4s, 8s) reference you guys, how does no one see that?? It's one or more crewman supporting other(s). Rowing at that time was fever pitch popularity and growing like mad. Rowing was like nation and region based sports mania culminating in the Olympics in Germany (think WWII) and only decreasing with the rise in Basketball, Baseball, Football, etc. Go read "The Boys in the Boat" if one is interested, only book I've ever known to successfully relate the sport to people who don't know it. Likely because so much of the book is not about crew, which is also kind of the point. Crew is an effort that tends to require a team of individual who are fully formed and able to work together pulling for each other completely.
To me it points to giving someone a hand up. Offering a hand to someone struggling to make it up a rocky surface, out of a chair,or through a tough time. The opposite of "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" which originated around the same time.
Tug of war?? Pulling a vehicle, farm animal, etc., out of the ditch or the mud? Pulling a ballot box lever?
Or could it have to do with ringing the bell at a church in recognition of a funeral or wedding, where you are pulling the rope for the bell? (See the Wikipedia entry for "Church bell").
Hemingway quotes part of John Donne's Devotions upon Emergent Occasions (1623), Meditation XVII in the epigraph of For Whom the Bell Tolls:
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were: any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.