One of the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (according to Stephen Covey) is:
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
What is the origin of this phrase? My guess is that it was inspired by the Prayer of Saint Francis which contains these words:
O Divine Master, Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console;
To be understood as to understand;
but according to Wikipedia even that cannot be traced back further than 1912.
Did it then originate with Stephen Covey?