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What is the best word or way to describe a person who just has to try and do everything themselves because they think, either rightly or wrongly, that only they are good enough to do the task in hand?
The type of person I'm thinking of will attempt to take over any situation. So if you're having a BBQ only they are good enough to cook the food or if you're planning a day out then they decide only they are good enough to drive you there.
Friends may half-jokingly call that person the little dictator/tyrant. This is slang but good.
However I think the best word for your details is imperious.
assuming power or authority without justification; arrogant and domineering
Some other words to describe this person would be:
- overbearing... unpleasantly or arrogantly domineering
- to be "nice" you can say assertive... having or showing a confident and forceful personality
- usually used for a woman (by other women) would be haughty... arrogantly superior and disdainful.
- and the common man's term would be simply pushy... excessively or unpleasantly self-assertive or ambitious.
You might call them perfectionists since they feel only their efforts are "good enough."
Given the level of self-involvement described, I am leaning toward narcissist.
I like egomaniac for this one too.
know-it-all 1. a person who acts as though he or she knows everything and who dismisses the opinions, comments, or suggestions of others.
Consider peremptory.
peremptory: characterized by often imperious or arrogant self-assurance.
Sounds like a narcissist
Narcissist: a conceited, self-centered, self-preoccupied person
