Can anyone help me find a little bit more polite way to say "I am pissed off at you"?

I know this is used to show anger or irritation, but this is bit harsh.

So, do you have any other option?

  • Nothing will get someone so pissed off as telling him "I am pissed off at you" -- it's not really harsh at all, when used in the right context.
    – Kris
    Commented Nov 23, 2013 at 13:35

14 Answers 14


Some more possibilities:

I'm ticked off at you.

I'm teed off at you.

I'm upset with you.

You've really irked me.

I'm peeved about this.


You can say

I'm angry with you.


I'm annoyed at what you did.


What you did bothered me a great deal.

or any number of things.

By the way, if you do want to use pissed off, use at, not to, for the preposition:

I am pissed off at you.

or even just

I'm pissed at you.

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    Isn't the last American? In UK pissed without the off means drunk. Also I would add: You (or your actions) piss me off...
    – mplungjan
    Commented Mar 10, 2011 at 13:14
  • @mplungjan: Although pissed is a euphemism for drunk (along with an almost infinte selection of more delightfully obscure ones), almost any Brit would understand that to be pissed at someone is to be angry at them.
    – Andy F
    Commented Mar 10, 2011 at 13:24
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    I've only heard of a piss-up - meaning a party where the aim is to become drunk
    – mplungjan
    Commented Mar 10, 2011 at 13:50
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    It's worth pointing out that in Australia "to piss off" also means "to depart". "I was so pissed off with the boss that I pissed off to the pub." Commented Mar 11, 2011 at 3:15
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    To piss off means to depart in the UK too. Telling someone to piss off is another way of telling them to go away.
    – Carl Smith
    Commented Feb 18, 2013 at 20:39

I am ... with you. Not at you.

I am annoyed/ticked off/angry/pissed off with you!


I am annoyed/ticked off/angry/pissed off at you!

suggests more aggression any an ambiguity as to whether the listener well be covered in urine.

It is better to be pissed off than to be pissed on.


If you're looking for less intense feeling:

I'm irritated.

I'm bothered.

However, synonyms for 'pissed off' should really communicate the full fury of the phrase, so I'd recommend:

I'm livid.

  • I am irritated with you
  • I am cross with you
  • I am mad at you

I was really pissed off at someone the other day so after fuming in private and thinking about it for a bit I told the person in a calm yet firm manner what I was pissed off about (I had condensed it to about 12 words) and then I said (calmly yet firmly-rather matter-of-factly) "I am not at all happy about this." So now, when I'm pissed off at someone, that's what I'm going to say.

  • That sounds really stilted to me. I might even find it funny if someone says that to me.
    – Mohit
    Commented May 17, 2013 at 6:37
  • @Mohit That might depend where you are. To a Brit. not at all happy is a polite but very firm/strong way of saying you are extremely displeased with a situation.
    – TrevorD
    Commented May 17, 2013 at 11:51

"I'm annoyed with you", or "I'm angry".


You could say you were dischuffed, a useful word that was common a while ago, but seems to be disused now.

  • Never heard that expression - but I would certainly understand it!
    – TrevorD
    Commented May 17, 2013 at 11:53

I just recently used "royally miffed", even though harsher, more vulgar words were more appropriate...


I am irked with you. Short. Efficient. Conveys the meaning.


"I'm seething at you" though if the object of your ire is obvious, "I'm seething" on it's own can be stronger.

  • Seething: That's a good word for pissed.
    – Carl Smith
    Commented Feb 18, 2013 at 20:35

I always liked fuming ~ He was absolutely fuming when he found out ~ I wouldn't use it formally though.


Do not say "I am pissed off" rather "I am disappointed in you" slowly and with heartfelt sadness. Anyone with a conscious knows if they did wrong will take this comment to heart, listen and remember. Being a disappointment is hard in life.


“When you did …, I felt angry.”, “When you did …, I was pissed off.” (This way you own your own feelings). As opposed to “You made me angry.”, “You pissed me off.”.

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