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Is there a single word (or a two-word phrase at least) that means "love in a hating way (hatefully, execrably)"?

There is the term "Love–hate relationship" but it is more of a psychological term:

A love–hate relationship is an interpersonal relationship involving simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and hate—something particularly common when emotions are intense. - Wikipedia

I'm mainly looking for a noun (or possibly an adjective or a verb).

An example sentence:

This ____, in which they hate each other lovingly or love hatefully, in which the contrasting feelings transcend each other. It is so hurtful yet comforting, so wearing yet pleasant.

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    "Love in a hating way"? Marriage. :P
    – Roger
    Feb 11, 2014 at 15:28
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    Not a perfect fit, but a word in common vernacular today in the US that is similar is frenemy. "Oh, Alexis and Sarah? They are totally frenemies" Meaning to be cordial toward each other and polite when face-to-face, but talking about one another behind backs.
    – TylerH
    Feb 11, 2014 at 15:28
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    Ōdi et amō, quāre id faciam fortasse requīrīs… Nesciō, sed fierī sentiō et excrucior. Feb 11, 2014 at 15:32
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    Catullus on ELU. Never thought I'd see the day :D
    – oerkelens
    Feb 11, 2014 at 15:45
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    I don't totally get the question. Does it mean that you love someone but he/she totally pisses you off? Or does it mean that you love to hate the person, and you enjoy being around them for that reason?
    – Jeremy
    Feb 11, 2014 at 20:31

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I like "brawling love", because I like quoting Shakespeare.

He was neither the first nor the last to discuss relationships combining love and hate (nor was that his only time), so there are in fact thousands of different phrases describing it. So many in fact that I'd avoid set phrases that have been used before; see if this tired old trope can be made fresh again!

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  • I want that glib and oily art To speak and purpose not, since what I well intend, I'll do't before I speak. - "King Lear" Feb 12, 2014 at 0:51
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Ambivalence To have two conflicting emotions simultaneously.

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You could try 'a cynical relationship'?

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  • I think this is more like not believing in love.
    – ermanen
    Feb 11, 2014 at 18:41
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Frenemy, defined on Google at the moment as "a person with whom one is friendly despite a fundamental dislike or rivalry."

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