What is a word that best describes trying to help someone, but the other party doesn't appreciate it?

I'm looking for a word.

  • Why the down vote?
    – Kris
    Feb 3 '14 at 7:49
  • I think that this can depend on the situation. Some people sometimes don't appreciate that their particular impositions of helpfulness are actually counter-productive. Though I wouldn't downvote – perhaps someone doesn't like OP's grammar ('but' is not linking balanced statements). Feb 3 '14 at 7:50


(of a feeling, especially love) not returned: Scion shared his wishes to learn more of the world first-hand to Kara unrequitedly.

Though more commonly used in the context of, and paired with, love, the basic definition applies to any feeling or action, or even an object perhaps.

Braden, Abraham Lincoln, Public Speaker, p.94

Yet, if God wills that it continue, until all the wealth piled by the bondsman's two hundred and fifty years of unrequited toil shall be sunk, and until every drop of blood drawn with the lash, shall be paid by another drawn with the sword, …

Shoup, Public Finance, p.145

Types of unrequitted payment: Payments not made for a consideration are unrequited payments. When paid by the government to the private sector, they are subsidies or welfare payments.


A thankless task. Not sure there's a single noun that covers it. The obvious adjective would be unappreciated.



Pretty obvious answer.

  • Neither an obvious nor a correct answer. The asker is looking for a word for (the actions of) the person providing the unwanted help, not the person who doesn’t want it. ‘Ungrateful’ means almost the exact opposite in this scenario. Feb 3 '14 at 15:13

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