I happen to be this type who always finds it hard to turn down someone who asks for my help.

You know, like when people ask to borrow some money, ask to take them to see a doctor, ask to help with English (I'm a nonnative speaker), ask to teach them some difficult subject, and anything. Moreover, this type of personality will not turn down one's request even if they are in a difficult situation themselves.

I don't think that the word kind or nice or selfless would be suitable for this.

I read this too, but the word altruist is used to describe someone who never asks for help, not for someone who can't say a "no" to someone else who asks them for help (which means that they may frequently ask for others' help too).

Besides, I don't know whether this is a negative or positive personality. So I can't figure out the right word to describe it.

Do I comprehend this in a weird way?

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    Apart from the periphrastic "always willing to help" I've thought of "obliging". – Laure Dec 25 '13 at 16:54
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    I suggest Yes Man. – Jill-Jênn Vie Dec 25 '13 at 19:38
  • I would say a pleaser. (I'm one too) – Colin Fine Dec 25 '13 at 20:25
  • Laure: Isn't it more like someone who obeys the rules? Jill: From the wiki page you provided, I think it's more like someone who says a yes to everything? (Not just a help) Colin: Hmm, I think you comment is the closest one of the three, but if it's a negative personality, I think @bib's answer (patsy) is good, right? – Safira Dec 26 '13 at 4:00


pushover - a person who is easy to overcome or influence: Colonel Moore was benevolent but no pushover


patsy - a person who is easily taken advantage of, especially by being cheated or blamed for something


soft touch - (informal) a person easily persuaded or imposed on, esp to lend money

Of the three, the last is probably the most positive (at least in US usage). The other two suggest gullibility.

  • I'd prefer patsy, cause I think I'm more like that. Or soft-touch, if this personality is actually a good one. Thanks, nice answer. (y) – Safira Dec 26 '13 at 4:01
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    all of these have negative connotation. Anything with positive connotation? – user180089 Jun 13 '16 at 20:58
  • @V0ight Soft touch is fairly innocuous. Also generous to a fault. – bib Jun 13 '16 at 21:08

Doormat. This is definitely a negative usage, as it imparts the sense of having no will of one's own.

  • 'Doormat' is more referring to the person's response to conflict rather than requests; a doormat lets someone walk over them. – Sam Jun 3 '14 at 12:44
  • In both cases, the person is passive; a doormat doesn't fight back, and a doormat will do whatever someone asks him to do, in the interest of avoiding conflict. – FeliniusRex Jun 3 '14 at 12:55
  • I agree that they are very close in meaning. If you look at e.g. pushover vs doormat, one is referring to how easily someone is influenced (easy to push over) whereas the other references a specific state of a person (they are dominated). To me this reflects both the situations in which the words are better suited (as I indicated above) and also adds greater force to doormat when used to describe a person. – Sam Jun 3 '14 at 12:59

Since "doormat" is taken, I'll submit "obsequious".

It means being obedient or servile to an excessive degree



acquiescent akwēˈesənt/adjective: ready to accept something without protest, or to do what someone else wants."The unions were acquiescent and there was no overt conflict"

synonyms: compliant, complying, consenting, cooperative, willing, obliging, agreeable, amenable, tractable, persuadable, pliant, flexible, unprotesting;

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