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Specifically, is there a term for the situation where both parties agree not to discuss a certain subject and in so doing end up engaging in a discussion about the very topic they said they wouldn't?

An example:

Person A: "What do you want to talk about?"

Person B: "Anything but the weather."

Person A: "Agreed, I find it boring to discuss the weather."

Person B: "Me too. Oh, that reminds me -- did you hear it was supposed to snow tomorrow?"

Person A: "Wow, really? I didn't know that. So long as it doesn't rain!"

Person B: "You do realize we now actually are talking about the weather, right?"

  • You might consider a metaphor like: They've wandered into forbidden territory – Jim Nov 21 '13 at 3:29
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Consider elephant in the room

a major problem or controversial issue which is obviously present but is avoided as a subject for discussion: they’ve steadfastly ignored the elephant in the room: the ever-growing debt burden on graduates

In a sense, it's a form of litotes

ironical understatement in which an affirmative is expressed by the negative of its contrary (e.g. I shan’t be sorry for I shall be glad)

The very process of avoidance results in the consideration of the avoided concept.

  • I think OP is looking for a term for actually talking about the elephant in the room – Jim Nov 21 '13 at 3:22
  • @Jim Sounds like I come to bury Caesar ... – bib Nov 21 '13 at 3:26
  • My favorite example of a litotes is: "He's a man of no small means." – Jim Nov 21 '13 at 3:31

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