In "Perfect Zen" by E. A. St. Amant it is written:

“You're a breeder voyeur,” Paulo remarked. “She loves the explicit gay porno stuff, like at the Barn.”

I found that a breeder voyeur is 'A heterosexual person who attends a gay bar or event in order to observe gay life', so, I'm wondering what do you call a heterosexual who, not only observes gay life, but wonders what it would be like to live and to have a relationship with a gay person.

The first word that come to my mind is curious, but it seems too general and I'm looking for a word that fits more precisely that meaning.

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    My favourite for this is "3-beer-queer".
    – Brad
    Sep 20, 2013 at 22:26
  • Your question is a little vague. It is rather like asking for a word that describes someone who wonders what it is like to be a soldier. Why should there be such a word? Most people have wondered what it would be like to have a different sexual orientation at some time in their lives -- some with a sense of intrigue and some, no doubt, with a sense of revulsion. Just imagining something doesn't really warrant a word in my opinion. Oct 18, 2015 at 10:53

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The word is bicurious (often hyphenated, bi-curious). There's also homoflexible and heteroflexible.

Bi-curious is a term used to refer to people of a heterosexual or homosexual identity who, while showing some curiosity for a relationship or sexual activity with a person of the sex they do not favor, distinguish themselves from the bisexual label. The term is sometimes used to describe a broad continuum of sexual orientation between heterosexuality and bisexuality.

The terms heteroflexible and homoflexible are also applied to bi-curiosity, though some authors distinguish heteroflexibility as lacking the "wish to experiment with ... sexuality" implied by the bi-curious label.


  • Bi-curious suggests that a heterosexual is imagining sex with a homosexual and being aroused. The question doesn't necessarily suggest that the heterosexual is thinking of this because he desires to have sex with a man. He may be thinking about it an abstract sense.
    – whitewings
    Jun 30, 2015 at 19:01

Inhibited Oxford Dictionary defines one as unable to act in a relaxed and natural way because of self-consciousness or mental restraint. I would add also due to Societal Constraints (laws), Religious Convictions, and Social Norms.