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accepted How does one address a blended family in which the members have different surnames?
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comment How does one address a blended family in which the members have different surnames?
The particular issue was a benevolence case around Christmas time, as a school was asking for help with gifts for students who were in need. A gift was given to the children of a single mother who had a different surname from all of the children. Her mother also lived with her, but had a different surname too. But since there are so many blended families now, various mixtures of surnames could easily arise for different cases. No, I had not met any of the family at all. Just a list of names given for volunteers to help out. As far as I know, there was no letter, just a note in a gift bag.
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comment “Carry on” vs. “go ahead”
@Hellion This is usually true, but I'd add the possible exception in a military setting, where "carry on smartly" can be for sending someone away, either to begin or continue. Carry-On Smartly: (Normally followed by the word Shipmate, if your not a NUB!) A navy tradition to be curt or kind in terms of sending someone away. It's all in the tone of voice and delivery. nukeworker.com/forum/index.php?topic=26145.0
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comment How does one address a blended family in which the members have different surnames?
"The kids don't know...why they have a different last name from those of their siblings. Teachers don't know what to make of it..." Exactly. Thanks. I still wish there was a definitive answer, but I'll go with "Dear Ms. Smith and family" for the reasons stated under the other answer.
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comment How does one address a blended family in which the members have different surnames?
I'm curious why I was down voted a couple times. Is there some way I could improve my question or a reason why it was down voted? I wasn't sure this was on topic when I posted it, and whether it was a question of etiquette, but I'm particularly interested in whether there are rules for this situation.
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comment Is there an acceptable corresponding negative to “well off”?
@hildred Well on makes me think of old age or time, not affluence.
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comment How does one address a blended family in which the members have different surnames?
+1 for mention of no formal rules in the US about no formal rule for naming children's surnames. However, I'm not quite willing to accept the answer yet. It would be ideal to see some documentation. Maybe someone works in a social services or government office and has more experience with this situation.
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comment How does one address a blended family in which the members have different surnames?
@Mari-LouA I agreee. I'm unwilling to invent a rule that may offend some members of the family. Perhaps Ms. Smith and family (since I believe the children's mother is the head of the household rather than her parents) is the best form of address.
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