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How important is the word “Please” when asking for something? [on hold]

How important is this word 'please' when asking someone you don't know for something? If you have already said "excuse me" is it still necessary? Is it more important than 'Thank you'? I have heard ...
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“Could you Please provide me the details…”? [closed]

When we write a business email and want some information from the mail recipient, then which is the most professional way to ask for information. Does using "Please" in a sentence makes it look bad?
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The deal between “Mary and me” vs. “Mary and I” [closed]

I think "Mary and me," even though it sounds odd to the ear, is correct, but my choice is between: "I've forgotten everything about the deal between Mary and me" and "I've forgotten everything about ...
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Polite way to correct someone who called you the wrong name [closed]

I am often called by my brother's name when I am greeted by someone whom I do not see on a regular basis (as anyone with siblings who look like them can sympathize). These are normally people who only ...
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Talking over the phone for the first time [closed]

I will have an interview in English over the phone, and I am preparing for it. What I'm wondering is what will be the best way to greet the interviewer? "Hell, my name is ______. It is nice to talk to ...
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How polite is “all” as an email address? [closed]

I work in a Dutch international company, with English being the official language. I often see my colleagues starting an email with plain "all" as in: All, Attached the agenda for the meeting ...
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When should I end online comments with a period?

I'm wondering what the rule is for when you post comments online. Here are some examples: Yeah, I totally agree Terrible Nice picture I wouldn't do that myself Would I end these with a period? Or ...
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“Pardon” vs “Please can you repeat that”? [closed]

In a client/business conference call , when you do not hear, what the speaker was saying or the message was unclear due to noise disturbance, what is the professional way to say it:- Pardon Could ...
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polite questions vs. direct questions: real life reactions [closed]

In English courses (especially business), we learn to use polite questions. So we know that you shouldn't say "excuse me... where's the nearest supermarket, please?" but rather "excuse me... do you ...
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Best wishes/Good luck …? - [to encourage to proceed trying]

Suppose, someone is working on a long and tedious task (learning English seems not quite fitting, I think, it's too...continuous; I just stumbled upon this question in the context of learning physics (...
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What's another way of saying “to hell with it”? [closed]

How do you express displeasure and disregard over something (e.g. To hell with that new policy _____'s office has come up with! I'm going to do whatever the hell I want) without sounding crude? I am ...
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“Kindly” vs “Please” : Which is better in official emails? [closed]

Consider the below sentences:- 1. Kindly review the document and let me know if I need to change something. 2. Please review the document and let me know if I need to change something. 3. Could you ...
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Should we use the word “Actually” before a sentence? [closed]

Someone asked to me about some particular information. I replied to the email like this:- Hi, "Actually I was assigned the following task by my Manager"........ Is it grammatically correct to start ...
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Does it sound good to write “With best compliments from” in an invitation? [closed]

Again it's somewhat similar to my previous question, but I need to know it too. I am preparing contents for a wedding card, I have little doubt in writing With best compliments from as the last line ...
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Is it correct to write “Awaiting to welcome you” in invitation? [closed]

I am preparing contents for a wedding card, I have little doubt in writing Awaiting to welcome you as the last line of the invitation. Is it okay to write it? or will you please tell me a good line ...
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Order of placing Mr. and Mrs. in a wedding card [closed]

I am designing a wedding card, I need to know how to start it, these are some samples: Mrs. & Mr. Xyz invite you.... Mr. & Mrs. Xyz invite you.... Mrs. Abc & Mr. Xyz invite you.... Mr. ...
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What is the correct way to ask 'Do you know what I mean?' after you attempt to explain a thought?

I have recently started graduate school and a fellow student asks 'Do you know what I mean?' after nearly every statement they make. I find it excruciatingly annoying, but I soon realized that I do ...
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Can I say “help myself to” when I'm being offered something? [closed]

Background I was travelling with my clients( from US/Canada) when one of them graciously offered me a portion of Lindt bar. Since I wasn't sure what a polite response would be to a native speaker, I ...
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What is the proper response to “Excuse my language”?

What is the proper response to "Excuse my language"? I don't want to say "not a problem", because honestly, it is a problem. However, I can't think of any other appropriate response. I'm looking ...
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Is “not very” considered polite? [closed]

I've heard that if you want to describe something in a negative way but polity, use "not very" + "negative" adj. For example, describing a bad thing would be: This is not very good. Or talking ...
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Are these things rude? [duplicate]

Ok, I know I already asked this stuff but I thought that I should've organized it. So here it goes. By the way, quick shout out to people who answered my original question. I guess it was off-topic ...
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Is it rude to say commands or imperatives without saying please? [closed]

I've been wondering that for a long time. And if it is rude, then why does everyone say commands/imperatives without saying please? I personally phrase them into questions, or say "you have to","you ...
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How to request to be addressed by one's title and surname [closed]

I am wondering if anyone might have a suggestion about how to request to be addressed by a personal title and one's surname. For example, I prefer to be addressed as, "Mr. Redgate," but I do not wish ...
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The Kids are All Right

As I was reading some of the responses on Should I use “the wife” or “my wife”?, I agreed with many of the posters stating that using the wife as opposed to my wife was slightly less personal and ...
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Is it okay to use the word “Negro” in a historical context? [closed]

In a few days, I have to do a class presentation project about the 1920s Harlem Renaissance. I want to say that the movement's original name was the "New Negro Movement," but I'm not sure if that's ...
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Less vulgar alternative to “bee up my butt”

In my corner of the world, the two exressions given in the accepted answer to this question have become conflated. Now, to "have a bee up one's butt" is to have a sudden and obsessive need to do ...
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To indirectly and politely ask about something “I wanted to” vs “I would like to” [closed]

When asking someone for some information indirectly which one is preferable? "I wanted to" e.g. "I wanted to ask your advice on ..." "I would like to" e.g. "I would like to ask about your advice on.....
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Politer way of saying “Your discussion is invalid”

Someone is criticizing my work and they are using arguments that are not correct. I have explained the reasons why their argument is not correct and I want to conclude by saying: because of these ...
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Can “keep up the good work” be used for praising a co-worker? [closed]

Is "keep up the good work" a polite thing to say to your co-workers? I'm under impression that only someone from higher position has the privilege to say this. When replying the emails to a co-worker,...
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Is “fatty” a proper word to use?

The most intuitive word to describe a person rich in fat seems to be fatty. However, I'm not sure whether it's commonly used in a derogatory sense in English. Do I need a more appropriate word instead?...
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What is the proper way of addressing a professor? [closed]

I am a graduate student. Some part of my master thesis requires me to contact a professor from another university. In the first email I addressed him as "Dear Professor Smith". He started his reply ...
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What is the equivalent of this Arabic expression?

In Arabic, when someone tells you "You look good today," or "Thank you for the flowers, they are beautiful," the polite answer is: It is not the flowers. Your eyes are so beautiful everything appears ...
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How do I ask a waitress to “wrap the rest of the food up” to bring home?

I went to a restaurant for a meal and didn't manage to finish it, so there was some food leftover. How do you politely ask a server/waiter/waitress to wrap the food up? And is the expression "wrap up"...
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Adding Mr/Ms/Mrs to a signature [closed]

Suppose one has an unusual or foreign name, or a name which traditionally belongs to the other gender. Is it inappropriate to add one's title (i.e. Mr/Ms/Mrs) to the signature of a letter/email so as ...
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What should I say when people say “thanks a lot” [duplicate]

When I help others, they say "thanks a lot". What should I say to reply to them?
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Thank thou or Thank thee

How would Shakespeare have said "Thank you"? Can't decide if it is thee or thou, since it isn't really a sentence.
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I think I believe I feel statements should be introduced properly

In English, a subjective statement or a likewise question is often introduced by either of these phrases: I reckon [that] … – Do you reckon [that] …? (dialectal) I think [that] … – Do you ...
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Do you prefix every e-mail in a chain with a greeting? [closed]

Clearly, norms on etiquette dictates that you should prefix an e-mail to someone with "Dear Alice" or "Hi Alice" or something. But when engaging in an e-mail conversation chain, should I prefix EVERY ...
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How to frame a polite sentence without using “please”? Is it even possible? [closed]

I am just wondering that, are there any alternatives to make a sentence look polite. Instead of using "please". Kindly help me with examples.
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Is there any difference in politeness or formality between the following sentences?

Is there any difference in politeness or formality between the following sentences? Please can I borrow your pen? Can I please borrow your pen? Can I borrow your pen, please?
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Is “master-slave” polite name for software library? [closed]

I am going to write an opensource software library for web sites developers. With help of this library, web application opened in several tabs will be able to hold connection to server from one "...
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How to politely say “I don't know you”?

I received an email from someone I haven't known. It's a letter related to my job, in other words - a business one. How would you write him an answer highlighting that you don't know this person and ...
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Polite alternatives to “Whatever you say” [closed]

I wish to convey that “I will comply with your request, because I have to, although I am extremely offended that you made such a request.’ in a more concise (or passive aggressive) phrase. How? I am ...
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Use of the Word APPRECIATED [closed]

I would like to know , if its ok to use the word Appreciate in a Email to a Senior Managers....?? Eg. Dear Sir, Appreciate if you could intervene and resolve the issue asap...
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How to politely ask a man or a woman's chest size?

For a lady: What's your bust measurement, Madam? For a man: What's your chest size, sir? Are these correct and polite? Thanks.
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Opening-conversation for requesting a service over the phone

As a non English speaker with a non English name, I find myself opening quite a long question before I even get a confirmation about the fact that, the person in the other side can even help me in ...
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Colloquial terms for “[please do X] according to your own ethical assumptions”?

When I want to ask someone to do something that has some costs (like personal involvement, time, money), but want to leave it to that person to decide how much to spend on that - how do I express that ...
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Responding with “OK” & “Welcome” to “Thank you” [duplicate]

Please, let me make it clear that my question is not asking how native speakers usually respond to "Thank you". Before posting this question I did some research and I also read this discussion: How do ...
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Is “should” appropriate for polite requests?

I am placing request to a customer for a project and I want him to provide some information. I had worked with them in a previous assignment and they failed to provide me most of the details ...
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Word to describe the caring of the seller for the buyer?

A buyer and a seller come to a trade agreement. During the discussion, the seller (whose product is good quality) shows that they are a generous person, like so: The buyer expresses that although ...