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Is there a verb which means 'try to find something in common with someone'? In this context for example:

  • Everyone has the urge to commit a murder sometimes, we both do too.

  • Don't you try to ... (with me), you criminal!

Keep in mind that this probably isn't a perfect example, but I hope you understand what I mean. I thought of 'sympathize' for a while, but it is not quite what I'm looking for..

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You might try empathize. – user21497 Dec 27 '12 at 10:29
agree, concur. "We concur fully," reply others, "in the objection to this part of the plan, but we can never agree that a reference of impeachments to the judiciary authority would be an amendment of the error. Federalist Papers -James Madison – Kris Dec 27 '12 at 11:13
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A fairly standard way to say this is to find common ground with someone else. It is used as a communication technique.

The term itself derives from the old practice of a town having a commons, a parcel of land shared or held in common by all residents.

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This is very close to what I meant! – JohnPhteven Dec 27 '12 at 11:14

In a psychological context, finding common ground would be called establishing a rapport.

This technique is used to build trust and help people feel more comfortable communicating with a psychologist or doctor, but can also used in business and social contexts.

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Relate is the best single-word I can think of.


5. to establish a social or sympathetic relationship with a person or thing
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