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There are words for relationships obtained by marriage or partnership of family members: xxx-in-law. But, surprisingly, there is no word (that I know of) for the parents of your child's partner. Or is there? Or did we forget it?

I wish there was a word for it (also in Dutch, my native language), because it is always hard to describe this common relationship concisely.

For who is interested: the Malay language has besan: relationship between parents whose children are married to each other.

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The parents of my son's wife. They are: my son's in-laws. I don't know a shorter name. – GEdgar Mar 20 '12 at 18:24
Quntae and qunba - Google Books shows words for this in an African language. – Daniel Mar 20 '12 at 19:07
Not every single concept can be expressed by a single word. It's not that surprising that this particular concept has no word for it. – Mr. Shiny and New 安宇 Mar 20 '12 at 19:23
I agree with your first statement, but why would such a common concept not have a word for it? We should invent one! :) – Gert Arnold Mar 20 '12 at 19:30
If you're in a context where "our" clearly means yourself and your spouse, it's unlikely anyone would misunderstand if you referred to them as "our in-laws". – FumbleFingers Mar 20 '12 at 20:27
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There is none that I've ever heard. I would simply use son's/daughter's in-laws.

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Yes, and I do. It always seems to require some two-stage expression. One word would be easier and more elegant. And less detached. – Gert Arnold Mar 20 '12 at 18:30
Of course, no, there isn't would be a valid answer. I wait a while to see what will come across. – Gert Arnold Mar 20 '12 at 18:39

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