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I'm looking for a word with a positive undertone to describe a teenager who does her own thing and doesn't cave in to peer pressure. Any suggestions? Thanks.

Question edited 1/30/16. Someone marked this question as a duplicate, but I think the other question is quite different from the one already posted. The other question is asking about a single word to describe someone who doesn't follow the crowd for the single purpose of being contrary. A contrary state of mind has nothing to do with what I'm looking for. I'm writing a recommendation for a teenager who is polite, independent, confident, and doesn't follow the crowd... NOT out of a sense of being different for the sake of being different, and not because she's ornery and contrary, but because she's her own person, and not swayed by what the other teens are doing. Can we re-open this discussion?

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Well then I guess "lost" and "disoriented" are out. – Hot Licks Jan 29 at 19:23
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Related:english.stackexchange.com/q/70526/17956 – Jim Jan 29 at 19:30
    
What about a leader? – NVZ Jan 29 at 20:11
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@NVZ I know that you mean "leader" as opposed to "follower" but then again, leaders don't really "do their own thing" considering that other people follow them. – Patrick Roberts Jan 29 at 20:14
    
Agreed regarding "leader." The girl I'm trying to describe doesn't necessarily have others following her. She just follows the beat of her own drum! – Libby Jan 29 at 20:17
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In one word "independent", in two "independent minded".

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A side note for using "independent" as a noun (i.e. "John is an independent"): In the US, an independent is someone who is neither a Democrat nor a Republican. Depending on context and audience, that connotation is something to be aware of. – QPaysTaxes Jan 30 at 0:44

Consider Maverick:

A person who shows independence of thought and action, especially by refusing to adhere to the policies of a group to which he or she belongs. (TFD)

a person who refuses to follow the customs or rules of a group (M-W)

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Maverick won't work because the person is more low-key and usually operates under the radar. – Libby Jan 29 at 20:05
    
@Libby That's often the case, but a maverick isn't always flashy... sometimes only one's friends or family know about a maverick's tendencies. – Nathaniel Jan 30 at 2:26

lone wolf

a person who does not conform to generally accepted standards or customs

On the link, there are many good synonyms as well, including "counterculturist", and "individualist".

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Individualist is great! Thank you! – Libby Jan 29 at 20:04

free spirit

Google Definition:

noun

an independent or uninhibited person.

It's synonymous with nonconformist, but IMO it doesn't have the rebel without a cause undertone.

Google definition:

noun

a person who does not conform to prevailing ideas or practices in their behaviour or views.

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Also free thinker – Jim Jan 29 at 19:49
    
Free thinker is close to what I'm looking for. I may have to use more than a single word! Thank you. – Libby Jan 29 at 20:03

How about nonconformist? Or independent-minded?

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Could you add dictionary entries to back this up? – QPaysTaxes Jan 30 at 0:40
    
Even rebel, no ? "What is a rebel? A man who says no" [Albert Camus The Rebel] "To be a rebel is not to be a revolutionary. It is more often but a way of spinning one's wheels deeper in the sand" [Kate Millett Sexual Politics] "No one can go on being a rebel too long without turning into an autocrat" [Lawrence Durrell Balthazar] – Baiwir Jan 30 at 9:11
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Please explain why either of these options is useful. Remember: you're answering for people who don't know the answer. – Matt E. Эллен Jan 30 at 12:48

"Independent-minded" fits, but not "independent" because that could mean she doesn't work well with others. Is she "self-actualized"?

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One possibility is self-confident:

Confidence is a feeling of trust in someone or something. To be self-confident is to have confidence in yourself. Self-confident people don't doubt themselves. This is usually a positive word: you can be self-confident without being cocky, arrogant, or overconfident. If you know what you’re doing, you have every reason to be self-confident.
Vocabulary.com

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eagle-spirited

He was the most dedicated, eagle-spirited, student-encouraging and highly moraled man there. Tributes

spirited: having a specified mood, disposition, or nature (used in combination): high-spirited; mean-spirited. Random House Kernerman Webster's College Dictionary

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