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Get out of your own head

How do I get out of my own head.

Kindly explain this idiom!

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up vote 6 down vote accepted

More context would help.

I interpret it to mean, Stop looking at things from such a self-centered point of view. Look at the whole picture. It's not all about you.

For instance, if one were continually upset by minor rudeness from others, a way to get out of your own head is to stop focusing on your own hurt feelings but instead to consider what difficulties the other person struggles with, which will help you to overlook the petty rudeness and instead have compassion for the other person, even thinking of ways to encourage them and/or lessen their burdens.

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It can also mean "stop thinking about it and do something" - so if a coworker is cool or rude to you, insted of stewing about why, make an effort to get along with that coworker and focus on changing your situation to what you want instead of thinking all the time about how bad it is. – Kate Gregory Jan 16 '12 at 19:37

The way I have heard this phrase being used, it was meant to say "stop thinking/worrying too much about a particular thing, or about things in general", "get over (thinking about) something", or "enough introspection already, now go out and play".

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When someone thinks too much 'in their own head' about an issue/problem/injustice/etc. they can work up a completely fantastical argument about how everyone is 'wrong' and they are 'right'.

And all of the distortion is 'in their head', it's not real life. A person being told to 'get out of their own head' is being told to talk with other people to get other perspectives on an issue.

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