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Pronouns can be so confusing. Is this appropriate or is there a preferred structure other than this?

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After reading the title alone, I was thinking that the confusion was on the usage of "look forward to seeing you and Kate", which happens to be the correct usage. Non-native speakers are prone to the mistake of using "look forward to see you and Kate". – MediumOne Apr 5 '11 at 10:33
What about "Jamie and I are looking forward to..."? Would it be correct to use a present continuous? – José Tomás Tocino Apr 5 '11 at 11:58
Yes. It is still present continuous. Thanks for bringing this up. This is the instance when it gets most confusing. – MediumOne Apr 5 '11 at 12:02
@TheOm3ga : Your question makes me think - Can there ever be an instance of the phrasal verb "Look/looking forward to" followed by a form of verb other than present continuous? – MediumOne Apr 5 '11 at 12:20

Your sentence is perfectly correct. Jamie and I is right because it's a subject (Jamie and me is a common mistake) and you and Kate is correct too. Both are in a natural order, as well: it's common to put I, me, or myself last in a list and you or yourself either first or last. I and Jamie is correct but odd, and Kate and you sounds pretty strange; many people write something like Kate and yourself as an alternative.

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I think that sounds a bit contrived. There's no (modern, at least) custom of putting females first. – billynomates Apr 5 '11 at 12:07
@Karl: So are you suggesting "Karl and Jamie look forward to the match on Tuesday." would not be a correct sentence? Since there are two subjects in both examples, I doubt that motivation. – oKtosiTe Apr 5 '11 at 13:11
@oKtosiTe, of course you're right. I'm going to ask that you accept that I've had a long day and pretend that never happened... – Karl Apr 5 '11 at 13:20
@Karl: Pretend that what never happened? ;-) – oKtosiTe Apr 5 '11 at 13:36
I don't think Kate and yourself would be correct here, since yourself is a reflexive pronoun and, in this case you is not the agent doing the seeing, so a reflexive pronoun is inappropriate. – Dancrumb Apr 5 '11 at 13:52

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