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I can use child to replace son or daughter, sibling for sister or brother, and parent for mother or father.

What is the unisex replacement for fiancée and fiancé?

I don’t need it for speech, but for formal or semi-formal writing.

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He/She is 'spoken for' – user5531 Mar 24 '11 at 14:59
Is there one for aunt/uncle? Do gender neutral terms necessarily exist in all cases? – barrycarter Mar 24 '11 at 15:09
@barrycarter: A sibling of my parent's? :) – Kosmonaut Mar 24 '11 at 15:56
@Kosmonaut How about bride/groom? (not "spouse", since that's after they're married). – barrycarter Mar 25 '11 at 1:51
@barrycarter: Person getting married? (I'm being somewhat facetious — these names aren't very good!) – Kosmonaut Mar 25 '11 at 12:48
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For formal writing, betrothed would be my number one choice. But, as Lunatik already gave that answer, I'll provide some more: spouse-to-be (instead of the gender-specific wife-to-be and husband-to-be), future spouse, prospective spouse, intended (date and informal).

Of course, it's much easier to refer to use adjectives and refer to the couple as a whole, if you can rewrite it in this way. This opens the door to: engaged, affianced, pledged in marriage, etc.

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"Betrothed" can be used as a noun, but I admit it does sound a bit stuffy.

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My suggestion would be to use fiance (no accent). In my experience most people aren't aware of the distinction between fiancée and fiancé, since it isn't reflected in speech, and simply reverting to the shorter form and leaving off the accent (to confound francophones) may be sufficient.

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Though purposefully making mistakes doesn't sound fit for “formal or semi-formal writing”, does it? – F'x Mar 24 '11 at 14:56
@F'x: Writing fiance is not a mistake, as the accent-less version is endorsed as an alternate spelling by every dictionary I checked. – JSBձոգչ Mar 25 '11 at 14:35

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