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I can't seem to remember this particular word/phrase. I'm almost certain it's a two-word phrase. It specifically refers to someone who is skilled with the ladies, ie, someone who knows the tricks of the trade.

- "Unless you're a X-Y, that's not going to work with her."

Edit : I'm not looking for 'ladies man', 'casanova', 'womanizer' etc. This phrase refers to someone who's more of a pro and one who is serious about his business.

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Have a look here: english.stackexchange.com/questions/163450/… – Josh61 Apr 25 '14 at 10:46
+1 for using the phrase " skilled with the ladies " – Frank Apr 25 '14 at 11:24
Duplicate of How to describe a guy who is popular with girls?. – medica Apr 25 '14 at 11:37
It's not any of the words that are there in the above two questions. I'm looking for a very specific phrase and not looking for classmate terms. Thanks :) – Yaitzme Apr 25 '14 at 12:39
Did you look at both questions, if you had you would have noticed they are identical. – Mari-Lou A Apr 25 '14 at 15:40

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You might also be looking for the phrase pickup artist.

This used to be a synonym for a "ladies' man," someone who was good at the skills and techniques of seduction.

However, it's recently begun to be associated with a specific subset of extremely creepy people who use a specific range of extremely creepy techniques to pick up women. If you are talking about people taking things "seriously," this might be what you mean--but you should be aware that most people now consider "pickup artist" to also carry the strong implication of being highly misogynistic and a borderline psychopath.

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Awesome. This is EXACTLY what I was looking for ! – Yaitzme Apr 26 '14 at 21:34

"Smooth operator" is someone who is good at winning over women. It's also the title of a song about that same behavior - it has a slightly negative connotation.

It might be exciting to get the attention of a smooth operator (or if you're a man, to have the skills of one) but you probably wouldn't want to take him home to meet your parents.

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How about smooth-talker

Definition in Urban dictionary:

Someone who has a very rare ability to say all the right things at the right time. Even when a situation is not in their favor, by the end of the night their uncanny ability with words has turned a unfavorable situation into an advantage. They are charming and possess all the people skills then some, they can talk their way out of or in into anything they want. Even more deadly if the person is hot.

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Incubus is a paranormal term for a male entity that seduces women. A demon with supernatural abilities.

Ace is a skilled performer in many contexts.

Gigolo is another word for a man who is a professional romancer.

Rock Star is one who attracts women, but doesn't necessarily have skill. See also movie star.

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He is a real ladies man.

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I am sorry that this is only one word but a gigolo is a professional player.

a young man paid or financially supported by a woman, typically an older woman, to be her escort or lover.

It is sometimes referred to as a playboy but the word gigolo is much more pointed.

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A smooth-talking charmer who has mastered the art of finding, meeting, attracting and seducing beautiful women into the bedroom. One he accomplishes his goal, he leaves the woman in fear of having a relationship and proceeds to find his next conquest.

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Problem is... the OP specifically said: "I'm not looking for 'ladies man', 'casanova', 'womanizer' etc" – Mari-Lou A May 9 '14 at 19:56

Is sweettalker/sweet talker the word you're looking for?

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a man who readily or frequently enters into casual sexual relationships with women; a womanizer.

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Maybe "Don Juan" is what you're looking for.

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Welcome, Tony. This answer could be more useful if you tell us a little more. For example, you could define the term or explain why it is a good fit for the question. (If you're trying to evade the character minimum, that's a sign that your answer needs to be fleshed out a little!) – aedia λ Apr 25 '14 at 20:40
To match a couple of the other entries, I might have said "Is 'Don Juan' what you're looking for?" or "Perhaps: He is a real Don Juan." I don't think the extra words would have contributed much to the sense of my reply, though. Not sure why I got downvoted and they didn't. At any rate, the OP was trying to remember two words that refer to someone "skilled with the ladies", not an explanation of what the words mean. With that in mind, I tried to provide as pithy an answer as I could. I do try to be pithy. – Tony Apr 26 '14 at 1:32
These are all fair points to make, actually (and indeed there have always been requests to lift the character limit for single-word requests). That said, now that the downvote is here, it just ain't going away unless the answer is edited. It technically can't. (And seeing how you didn't actually drop the ball and came back to explain yourself in a 101-word comment, a 5-word edit would have been just as easily possible.) Trying to be pithy is fine. The thing is, the answer in its current form actually is not pithy anyway, and indeed 83% of it is plain off-topic. – RegDwigнt Apr 27 '14 at 12:23
I added some different noise words to the answer. I don't mind downvotes, by the way. People will have their opinions and reactions. Anyway, I do think I contributed to the list of possible answers to the OP's question. That is what I was trying to do. – Tony Apr 27 '14 at 16:46

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