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Some co-workers of mine from another office play a "question game." I wasn't there for the question, but here it is:

Is it accidentally impregnating someone if you know you're trying to get her pregnant, but she doesn't?

It's obviously not accidental. Is there a word for this situation?

Edit #1: I mean a word for the whole situation, not just switching accidental for another word.

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Surely the word accidentally is de trop. If it is non consensual, then it is rape. –  KCH Apr 17 '14 at 16:45
Consider malice aforethought and deceit. Your hypothetical situation may not be criminal, but it certainly unethical and immoral. –  Patrick M Apr 17 '14 at 18:46
@PatrickM In the U.S. and Canada at least, it is illegal, has happened, charges have been pressed, and people have been convicted. This has happened both ways (woman claiming she's on birth control but isn't, both sexes sabotaging a condom, etc). –  Doc Apr 17 '14 at 19:35

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Intentional: done deliberately; intended
deliberate: done with or marked by full consciousness of the nature and effects
calculated: undertaken after careful estimation of the likely outcome
premeditated: characterized by deliberate purpose, previous consideration, and some degree of planning
I would call this behavior insidious (stealthy, subtle, cunning, or treacherous) or duplicitous (given to or marked by deliberate deceptiveness in behavior or speech).

He duplicitously impregnated her against her will.

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I may have been unclear in my question. I edited it to be more clear. You are definitely correct though. –  Carlos Bribiescas Apr 17 '14 at 15:49

Not a single word that I know of, but the expression accidentally on purpose can be used for situations like that.

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The whole situation? Sexual assault

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This was the first thing I thought of as well. –  medica Apr 17 '14 at 21:03
It seems from the description that the sex is consensual, but not the impregnation. Sexual assault tends to be used more for rape and similar non-consensual acts. –  IQAndreas Apr 18 '14 at 6:31

Wrongful conception: In a wrongful conception case, the plaintiffs claim that their doctor negligently performed a vasectomy, tubal ligation, or other sterilization procedure, resulting in an unwanted pregnancy and/or birth. The resulting child is usually healthy, though unwanted.[24]

I'm unsure if there is case law against a partner based on deception but it would not be sexual assault. The example stated the female partner was ignorant of the male partner's attempt at impregnation, not coitus.

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It is definitely sexual assault in the US and Canada. Consensual sex that is conditioned on the use of contraception is sexual assault if either party intentional and surreptitiously tampers with birth control because the conditions under which consent to sex were given have been violated therefore the sex act is deemed to have been non-consensual. The person who tampers with the birth control knows that it is non-consensual. This is not hypothetical. People have gone to jail for this precise scenario. –  Aaron K Apr 18 '14 at 9:42
closeronline.co.uk/2014/03/… –  Aaron K Apr 18 '14 at 9:50
Where is the US case law? –  Third News Apr 18 '14 at 10:06
Correction, it is only so in Canada. US law does not include contraception in the standing definition of consent. California is considering legislation. –  Aaron K Apr 18 '14 at 10:24
This has veered off into a direction that wasn't intended... (But somewhat expected) –  Carlos Bribiescas Apr 18 '14 at 12:01

This scenario reminds me of a discussion that came up years ago in a torts class at law school. In U.S. tort law, certain claims fall under the heading "wrongful death." But as our professor told us in connection with a hypothetical case involving a woman suing the maker of a birth control pill for its failure to work, "'Wrongful life' is not a recognized category of tort."

In any event, the closest I can come to describing the pregnancy in your scenario is as "partially unexpected." The impregnation itself, on the other hand, might be termed "insidiously conceived."

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Same issue here. Consensual sex, but held down and impregnated without my consent. He knew what he was doing and did not ask me or even consider me obviously. He assumed I could take the morning after pill that would fix everything (however high doses of hormones and I'm nursing our daughter?) and this time he even said immediately after "I think I got you pregnant, do you feel our little son swimming around in there?". It was his birthday and he's been more & more abusive the past year since he got me pregnant the first time, (again not asking) and since our daughter was born, now 9 months old. I think he thought I would leave him because of the abuse and having another baby might make me stay? At the same time he hardly works and wasn't treating me right. Now I'm pregnant and taking care of our daughter alone and there's an order of protection against him, but I haven't brought any charges and wouldn't know what it is even called. We had consensual sex but I never agreed it was okay to stay inside me and get me pregnant!!!! Twice! He lacks self control & is overindulged and spoiled. He's living for free with his mom now, literally only pays for gasoline and $80 a month for the baby. Sees her 6 hours a week, supervised, since he threatened us, the catalyst of me finally leaving. So this is a sign off deeper issues in my opinion. You should never have to trick someone into having a baby with you or try to get them to stay in a relationship. You're creating a life that you are more responsible for. It brings more stress into a relationship if anything.

Wrongful conception seems the closest answer so far.

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Oh, how awful for you. I wish I could offer you some help, or advice but this is the wrong type of forum. However, you and your children need outside assistance and support. My heart goes out to you. –  Mari-Lou A Nov 2 '14 at 15:02

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