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Perhaps I should make it clear:
- He naturally attracts girls.
- He doesn't chase girls and have no intention for any relationship.
- You just see him often together with girls.

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a shoe salesman? –  Sam Apr 13 at 21:57
    
how about charming... –  EASI Apr 14 at 23:16
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How about "Fonzie"? –  Grim... Apr 15 at 1:19
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There is a good amount of ambiguity here. If you would clarify why the guy attracts girls it would help. Is he sexually attractive? Or perhaps he is charismatic? A good personality? And why does he have no intention for a relationship? –  ThomasW Apr 15 at 9:35
    
How about a Casanova? Though I suppose that said name implies some form of relationship other than friendship with the many women. –  Doc Apr 15 at 13:14

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I'd like to offer chick magnet: a male who seems to attract good looking females easily; someone who has many female admirers.

While Casanova, player, and playboy fit, they have a somewhat negative connotation (to me, at least) of having less regard for women; a chick magnet doesn't (to me) have that connotation. A puppy is a chick magnet!

In 6 Ways To Become The Ultimate Chick Magnet (where chick magnet is defined as those men who seem to do absolutely nothing, but still manage to have women gravitate towards them), two of the ways are to borrow a baby, and get a puppy. Because babies and puppies also effortlessly attract women. The site itself is misogynistic, but a chick magnet is not necessarily so any more than puppies or babies.

Ia a book of a similar title, this piece of advice can be found:

Instead of treating women as target practice for your next sexual conquest, practice starting conversations with people you meet, without having any agenda other than to get to know them and to brighten their day...

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+1 Up vote magnet! –  Kris Apr 15 at 14:12

Well the most common term I have heard without huge sexual connotations is ladies' man.

1) A Man who spends much time with women, or is in the constant company of them 2) A man who is able to pleasure women in most any manner 3) A Man who tends towards female friends, rather then male friends

You can also go with playboy, but this hints at wealth or luxury.

A term with quite a negative connotation and meets the requirements would be player.

(1) doesn't understand the meaning of relationship

(2) is in full reproductive mode

(3) is very good at making girls think he is into them (also very proficient at breaking said girls hearts)

(4) often "dates" several girls at several schools (girls are often unaware of each other)

The use of the words depends on the context. Playboy might be used for someone wealthier or older. Player is very common but negative. Ladies' man isn't exactly positive but much more so than the other two.


After thinking about the above answers for a minute I feel they are a bit gender biased. These are things I would say as a man - especially player. Trying to think of how some women I know describe such men I would offer different suggestions.

One would be heart throb. This would be very extreme and could be used for those who are ultra popular.

Someone who is an object of infatuation.

And probably the term I have heard women in my life use the most is sweetheart. "Oh John is such a sweetheart. He is so caring and nice." To guys we might think John is a big player but if he is friends with a ton of girls, they will most likely refer to him as a sweetheart.

Someone who's kind-hearted, nice, sweet, great person, personality, lovely to be around and just a great friend.

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As for the (relative?) lack of sexual connotation with "ladies' man": as far as i know, i've never seen/heard the word "pleasure" used as a verb in anything but a sexual context. To my (US) ear, that part of definition 2, about being "able to pleasure women in most any manner", is almost purely sexual. –  cHao Apr 15 at 1:23
    
@cHao - it is men that usually equate the word pleasure with sex. In the OP's criteria this is really a non-issue though. He doesn't mention if the guy has sex with the girls or not. In my heart I hope he is getting a little action though. –  RyeɃreḁd Apr 15 at 16:33
    
It's not so much the word "pleasure", as specifically the transitive verb. As a noun, it's not quite as fraught with sexual connotations (though it can never fully get away from them). Same with the intransitive verb, apparently, though i never see/hear that used in modern writing/speech. –  cHao Apr 15 at 16:44

In Britain the older generation would call him a ladies' man. I hope I have punctuated it correctly. Does anyone think it should be a lady's man?

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I think a lady's man might be some kind of servant or protector. Besides, we want multiple women. Your choice holds up. –  medica Apr 13 at 21:08
    
Great term. I think I got you by a few seconds! –  RyeɃreḁd Apr 13 at 21:24
    
@WS2 I don't know that you even need possessiveness; ladies man would work as simply 'a man of the ladies', would it not? –  TylerH Apr 15 at 13:16
    
@TylerH 'A man of the ladies' is a possessive. It is just that in English we have a shortened way of saying la plume de ma tante (the pen of my aunt). It is 'my aunt's pen'. Thus what in French would be un homme des dames would be 'a ladies' man'. –  WS2 Apr 15 at 21:24

Urban Dictionary: Don Juan

A Great Lover. A Great Friend. A man that gave many women sexual gratification. Sometimes people call friends or people who are smooth with ladies Don Juan.

That jon, he's such a don juan.

Wiki: Don Juan

Don Juan is used synonymously for "womanizer", especially in Spanish slang, and is often used in reference to hypersexuality. This is evident in William Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing.

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What you really want, is a Mack:

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Or a Playa / Player:

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They are often used interchangeably nowadays.

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This is used almost exclusively in the African-American community, so if you're trying to reach a wide audience, I would avoid it. –  Jasmine Apr 14 at 23:52
    
While that used to be true, when it comes to using the word, it all depends on context. Lexicon once labeled as Black or African-American has made it's way mainstream. I'd hypothesize given the reach of tv commercials and now even rap music, most Americans in the 18-49 age demographic would know what it means for a guy to be a player. While I wouldn't use this in a formal speech, most words that describe a guy who is popular with females are going to have sexual connotations in some form or fashion. –  BigHomie Apr 15 at 12:37
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‘Player’ is certainly not restricted to AAVE, but I’d say ‘mack’ is still quite heavily in the AAVE camp. I don’t think I’ve ever heard the term used by anyone who wasn’t either black or trying to be. It instantly makes me think of Return of the Mack. –  Janus Bahs Jacquet Apr 15 at 13:39
    
@JanusBahsJacquet It is used less now than before, particularly in favor of Player, and probably not used at all among the younger AA crowd. –  BigHomie Apr 15 at 14:05
    
I wasn't referring to 'player' - which is used a lot on talk shows and definitely mainstream. "Mack" or "macking" is generally not used in popular media. –  Jasmine Apr 15 at 17:40

A lady-killer or Casanova may also be used to indicate popularity with girls.

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Apparently nobody has mentioned it yet, so I’ll put forth stud.

The term stud comes from the animal-husbandry world where it refers to a male whose purpose is to mate with females and produce offspring. Likewise, male humans who are perceived to have “game” and be able to “score” easily with women are often dubbed studs.

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A less strong noun, useful for either sex, is charmer. He could be a charmer because he is intelligent, considerate, a good listener, or even because he is a musician.

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In older language there is the term womanizer. But for a young man today I would simply say "a nice guy the girls are fond of".

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Womanizer has strongly negative connotations. It implies, at a minimum, neglect or disregard, and more often than not, actual violence. –  LessPop_MoreFizz Apr 14 at 23:28
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@LessPop_MoreFizz I disagree; James Bond is regularly described as a womanizer, but he isn't violent toward women. Womanizers are simply nicer versions of players. –  TylerH Apr 15 at 13:18
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James Bond treats women like garbage. –  LessPop_MoreFizz Apr 15 at 15:00
    
A womanizer is a man who habitually has multiple sexual partners, whether concurrently or sequentially. It has a strong connotation of immorality or exploitation. –  Theresa Oct 2 at 0:41

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