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Scenario: Someone publicly says, "We have made a decision" in reference to an important choice, but no matter how many people ask what the decision was, the person does not say. Later, when asked about why they refused to disclose what their decision was they reply with "Because I don't want everyone to know."

Question: Is there a word that conveys 'keeping someone wondering purposely' or describes a type of person who does?

Note: I am aware that a**hole fits nicely as an answer, but I'm looking for something a tad classier.

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I believe the context of my scenario may have been misinterpreted. This isn't as if "the public" was waiting for a hiring manager to make a decision, as one might with a job opening, but rather someone who simple says "We have made a decision" out of the blue, then not saying what it was. Martin Luther King publicly saying "I have a dream" and then thanking everyone for being so supportive of him without telling them what his dream is. Or a person who asks if you want to hear a joke, then says "a guy walks into a bar" and then leaves without telling the punch line. – Josh Campbell Dec 24 '13 at 22:36
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You could try tantalize, with some care.1

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+1 - great word, great connotations. – medica Dec 24 '13 at 22:09
I was going to go with this as the answer, but decided against it for the same reason I couldn't go with provocative- Too heavily associated with erotica. – Josh Campbell Dec 24 '13 at 22:59
@Josh: If you avoid all words that are used in an erotic context, you might as well take a vow of silence. – TimLymington Dec 25 '13 at 12:05
You were correct Tim. My original review of 'tantalize' in Webster revealed "to cause (someone) to feel interest or excitement about something that is very attractive, appealing, etc.", which, in my haste, incorrectly associated with 'flirtatious'. A more thorough review of your answer revealed "torment or tease (someone) with the sight or promise of something that is unobtainable," which is exactly what I was looking for. Please for forgive my misconception. – Josh Campbell Dec 26 '13 at 11:30

evasive adjective:

tending to avoid commitment or self-revelation, esp. by responding only indirectly.

She was evasive about her phone number.

synonyms: equivocal, prevaricating, elusive, ambiguous, noncommittal, vague, inexplicit, unclear; roundabout, indirect; informal: cagey, shifty, slippery

The judge was infuriated by the defendant's evasive answers.

closemouthed: cautious in speaking, uncommunicative; secretive, close, secretive, dark, reticent, tight-lipped, uncommunicative

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You could say that he is leaving you hanging. The idiom leave hanging can mean

to keep someone waiting for a decision or answer

As the cite notes, you also could say twisting in the wind.

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Coy - one definition of the word is "someone who could give a definite answer but won't." Vocabluarly.com

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Noncommittal and disingenuous are possibilities (1,2), and to some extent reticent (3). Also cagey (4), nonforthcoming (see sense 3 of forthcoming), hedgy (5), obfuscatory (6), and (to a small extent) “economical with the truth” (7).

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"Hanging on to the other shoe"

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