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EG, "I didn't even bother with the _."

I can't seem to find the word for it! (I think it ends in 'ties' like 'profanities' lol

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Are you thinking of (exchanging) pleasantries? – Autoresponder Nov 24 '13 at 19:46
@Autoresponder I'll +1 that if you give it as an answer; it's a better answer than the one I gave. – Jon Hanna Nov 24 '13 at 19:54
'Profanities'! And they say that humour is dead. – Edwin Ashworth Nov 24 '13 at 21:34

I imagine you are speaking of formalities, as the word is used of phatic speech.

Edit: Formalities refer to such pleasantries that are dictated by convention or tradition, and it also covers some other practices, making it imprecise. Autoresponder is on the button with pleasantries as the perfect word to use here, and should get the tick if they offer it as an answer.

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+1 for phatic speech. – Autoresponder Nov 24 '13 at 20:29
@Autoresponder That's a helpful addition perhaps (I certainly intended it as such), but I still think you have the mot juste with pleasantries. – Jon Hanna Nov 24 '13 at 20:32

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