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Which would be more appropriate when asking for address verification:

  • Can you verify with me you mailing address?
  • Can you verify for me your mailing address?

Though I believe this requires no preposition, so "Can you verify your mailing address?" would sound sensible as well.

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Can you verify with me your mailing address?

This can mean one of two things. It can mean that the two of you together will verify their mailing address (like "Will you walk with me?"), or it can mean that you will possess the verification when they are done doing it (like "my account is verified with PayPal.").

Can you verify for me your mailing address?

That means that they will perform the verification because you require it.

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The correct approach is "for me" and you can check this kind of thing in the future by moving "for me" to the end. This is also the more common form of the question:

Can you verify your mailing address for me?

"With me" would be used in different circumstances — usually involving a different person or company:

Can you verify your mailing address with Yahoo/Google/Microsoft?

Can you verify your mailing address with Alice?

Your other comment is true, by the way. This is fine:

Can you verify your mailing address?

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+1 though I wouldn't call with me incorrect, it just does not mean what the OP wants to say. If we were to sit down and verify something together you weould be verifying it with me. – terdon Oct 23 '13 at 17:14
Yes, good point. Do you think WRONG/RIGHT would be less confusing? – MrHen Oct 23 '13 at 17:24
I would just explain that with me means something else. – terdon Oct 23 '13 at 17:26
Moreover, ‘with’ would be the appropriate preposition if you were verifying the (existence/validity of the) e-mail address with Yahoo!/Google/Microsoft (or whoever provides the e-mail). – Janus Bahs Jacquet Oct 23 '13 at 22:38

Case 1:

Dear John.
You know how I hate to write.
But you must verify with me tonight.
You had me acquire you a new web site.
You gave your clients the wrong address, how bright.
Please verify with me the address of your web site.
So that you could provide your clients with an address that's right.

Case 2:

Dear Joan.
I know how you hate to write.
But you must verify for me tonight.
You had acquired me a new web site.
But you gave me its wrong address, how bright.
Speak to the customer support you might
And verify for me the address of the site.
So that I could provide my clients an address that's right.

Case 3:

Dear John.
We know how we hate to meet.
But tomorrow we must be on our feet.
That our new clients we should greet.
Please come with me and be dressed neat.
I need you to verify their address with me, with Pete.
I don't like speaking to Pete by myself, that piece of meat.

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