Background: I have an undefined, informal and ongoing relationship with someone where we often meet in the late evening at his place. Occasionally, we might go to a bar first but we don't really hang out socially at all beyond that. Currently, we are both making an effort to expand on the relationship to include other activities.
me: do you want to do whatever tonight...? him: define whatever. lol. me: google says... whatever -> pronoun & determiner: used to emphasize a lack of restriction in referring to any thing or amount, no matter what. me: I guess I could have chosen "something" instead, which would have also implied that I do not prefer the nothing possibility included in the scope of whatever him: so... just to clarify... candyflipping at a rave is out? me: ummmmmmm... technically, based on what i said at least, it is still in. but no, we should not do that.
And then we debated my word choice. (yes, I'm lots of fun...)
So, here's my argument for using
something... The idea of
something essentially means "not nothing" or "more than nothing". However,
whatever does include both "nothing" and "anything"... and in that,
nothing can be expanded towards "nothing together" and "nothing apart". By saying
nothing is entirely removed (except, of course, if he says no to the question as a whole and turns me down tonight). I chose
whatever because I feel like the question in itself removes the absolute
whatever. Also, I did not want to exclude our normal "nothing out in the world but alone in your room together" activity and using
something might appear like I am asking for something other/more than that tonight.
What I wanted to say: I am good with anything together. I do not specifically have something else to suggest for tonight but if he has something he wants to do with me, I am willing to go with him. I am happy with what we normally do together. I also understand if he is busy but I would prefer to meet up. I think
whatever was the better choice.
What he said: the words are the same and using
whatever makes me sound like I am 12 years old.