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In the following context, is it okay to say "I ever met" or is it "I have ever met"?

Three years later you remain the coolest person I met.

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I know there had been discussions about “unwelcoming” new users with simple questions, but this one does seem like a perfect fit for ELL.SE. – theUg Jun 30 '13 at 14:34
"ELL.SE" meaning the StackExchange site for English Language Learners – J.R. Jun 30 '13 at 14:51
I doubt that. This is a simple case of negative polarity. Ever is an NPI and superlative constructions are negative triggers. How many question answerers on ELL.SE will tell the questioner about that? For that matter, how many will do so here? – John Lawler Jun 30 '13 at 15:23

"You remain the coolest person I met" suggests that you are referring to a specific occasion on which you met a few people, of whom that person was the coolest. "...I have ever met" would sound better.

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Further to what Reg says, saying "You remain the coolest person I met" is nonsensical. How could the roll-call of people met on / in that - if not specific occasion, period ending with that specific occasion - have altered since? The set of candidates for 'coolest person met' has obviously been expanded in the intervening 3 years, so "I have ever met" is needed to include the period following the last encounter.

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It wasn't Reg. It was MaryC. – Noah Jun 30 '13 at 15:52

"I have ever met" implies that she is the coolest person you have ever met until now. You haven't met someone that cool in the past. "You ever met" implies a past action and might not be a good fit for your case and may not even sound correct to some people. For a past thing, I would say something like:

She was the coolest person I'd ever met.

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