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What does "as close as you can get with safe sex" mean? I read this sentence in "Hannibal" from Thomas Harris, the original is

Our informant's close to the family situation, like, he's very close, as close as you can get with safe sex.

Is this phrase an idiom?

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Compare it to how close you can get without safe sex. – Barrie England Jan 24 '13 at 10:59
Not an idiom, no, but I've seen other analogies to things being extremely close without actually touching by referring to something extremely thin. For example a 'cigarette paper' apart. – user24964 Jan 24 '13 at 11:09
The difference between safe sex and unsafe sex is the thickness of a condom or rubber or whatever you want to call it. That's how close. It's an analogy. – spiceyokooko Jan 24 '13 at 13:26
It's a stupid analogy. "Safe sex" is very much akin to "decaffeinated coffee": ersatz. Two of my wives were unable to conceive. I had safe sex with one without a polyurethane barrier. The other one gave me a genital wart. The first was faithful, the second wasn't. – user21497 Jan 24 '13 at 14:55
This is Too Localised (or perhaps just Off Topic). It's not about English as such - it's just a matter of having sufficient powers of understanding to recognise the metaphoric juxtaposition of social and physical "closeness". – FumbleFingers Jan 24 '13 at 23:08
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This is not an idiom, but rather a coarse metaphor, referring to being separated by something as unobtrusive as a condom (supposedly feels like it's not even there!).

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